Recently it came to my attention that a very good friend has been struggling to have his family accept the fact that he’s gay. While his family is Roman Catholic, I don’t buy the fact that it is his family’s personal faith – despite the church’s teachings one can see in poll after poll that Roman Catholics support gay marriage by a larger margin than American voters. Tens of millions of devout Catholics have concluded that the church is out of step on this issue.
I’ve concluded (perhaps incorrectly) that his family must view his sexuality as a matter of choice, which really sets my head spinning. I can’t figure out how one comes to such a conclusion. It seems like such an illogical argument. Do heterosexuals struggle with their sexual identity so much so that they think its a choice we all make? If that is the case, I would appreciate the chance to lobby Ben Affleck and George Clooney to reconsider their choice. I can make a persuasive argument to stop choosing to be heterosexual – but I digress.
Really the only choice a gay / lesbian / bisexual person has is will they be honest to themselves and those people in their life. Whatever the outcome of my friend’s on going dialog with his family, I applaud him, and I hope he finds peace.