Category Archives: Family

Returning to the United States

travelIn a few hours Sergio and I board a plane to fly back to the United States.  I will miss my time in Brazil.  This year’s trip started on a sad note with the passing of Sergio’s father, but the death was also a huge release and relief of pent up stress, grief and many other feelings.  Despite the ominous conditions facing the family, the holiday was surprisingly cheerful and healing for Sergio, his Mom and the family at large.  The final few days spent alone together in Sao Paulo have been incredibly relaxing.  While I’m not looking forward to being crammed into the tiny United Airlines seats or the cold weather that awaits us, I am looking forward to returning home and feel refreshed.

Happy birthday Dad

DadToday is my father’s birthday, but I’m not there with him.  I am down in Brazil with Sergio who’s family is going through a particularly difficult time so I wanted to wish him all the best and let him know I’m thinking of him.

My relationship with my parents has only deepened and grown stronger over the years, despite the fact that I couldn’t live a more different life than they know (gay, urban and childless) but the bond and understanding has never wavered or been stronger.  My parents and my father in particular are living heroes who I strive to emulate.  This is Dad on his boat on Lake Winnipesaukee in 2013.

Thanksgiving winter wonderland

IMG_0559.JPGA large snowstorm hit northern New England the day before Thanksgiving, transforming New Hampshire’s Lakes Region into a picture perfect winter wonderland. Bright skies and rising temperatures on Thanksgiving made for some spectacular scenes with the green hues of the lake surrounded by the pristine white of the new fallen snow.

IMG_0560.JPGThe photos are from our evening walk the night before when the snow was piling higher with each passing hour and before the snow plows had a chance to clear the roads.

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Thanksgiving day

Gay thanksgivingIt is Thanksgiving in the US today, and I am spending the day with my family up at Lake Winnipesaukee (quite the mouthful – eh?).  If you observe the holiday, I hope you can have yourself a relaxing, fun-filled day with friends and or family.

Happy Thanksgiving

Remembering my grandparents

When I started my first blog, I focused on personal events like vacations and time with family. That has changed but this weekend is the 20th anniversary of my grandfather’s death, and I couldn’t help but reflect.   Without getting melancholic, I wanted to point out that while I don’t think of my grandparents every day, they really are never far from my thoughts.

Grandpa Len and Cape Cod Nana

Grandpa Len and Cape Cod Nana

My father’s parents lived in Cape Cod when I was a kid and to differentiate my paternal and maternal grandmothers we called my Dad’s Mom, “Cape Cod Nana”.   I don’t get any bonus points for creativity, but I’m glad it stuck because whenever Cape Cod is mentioned, she always comes to mind. Likewise, although “Grandpa Len” was retired when I was alive, his long career at Jordan Marsh – a Boston-based department – makes me think of him whenever I pass through Downtown Crossing or visit the South End coffee shop, Wholy Grain, which sells Jordan Marsh blueberry muffins.

Nana and Papa

Nana and Papa

My mother’s parents outlived my paternal grandparents so I have more memories of them. Nana and Papa played host to more sleepovers than I can hope to count. Backyard barbeques, holidays, family celebrations and more meals than one could ever imagine were had at the family house in Winchester and dominate my childhood memories.

The best gift my grandparents ever gave me (aside from my parents) is the memories I have of my time with them. I’m not one to fixate on loss and I prefer to think about all I’ve gained from having them in my life. They have certainly enriched it – even twenty years later.

Weekend at Lake Winnipesaukee

BosGuy Family

BosGuy family photo

In the past I’ve mentioned that my parents have a lake house about 15 minutes outside of downtown Wolfboro on Lake Winnipesaukee. This past weekend Sergio and I went up to see my brother, sister-in-law and niece who were visiting from California.

My parents built this house about five years ago and earlier this year they finished the basement, adding a second family room complete with a bar.  Lucky for us, our bedroom and bathroom is down there – away from the morning chaos that is inevitable when there are young nieces and nephews in the house.  We spent the weekend relaxing with the entire family.

Here are a couple photos from the weekend.

Captain Sergio

Captain Sergio

Sergio Kayaking on Lake Winnipesaukee

Sergio Kayaking on Lake Winnipesaukee

 

Happy Fathers Day

Happy Fathers DayHappy Fathers Day to three of the best Dads I know: my father, brother and brother-in-law.  I hope all Dad’s have a great day.

Love you all very much Dad, Tim and Travis.