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how to make friendsBosGuy says go out this weekend and make some friends


If we are so connected why are we so lonely

Do you find that more of your time is spent online and less of your time is spent face-to-face conversations with friends or family?  This video is making the rounds, and I thought I’d share it.

I don’t feel lonely, I have a wonderful partner, strong family connections and a good group of friends who have known me for a long time and can call ‘bullshit’ when they see or hear it. However, I’m not immune to this feeling and I think many others feel this way too often.

Saturday night

Holiday PartyThis is a rather unique weekend in the US.  The final weekend of the year; sandwiched between two of the biggest holidays celebrated in America: Christmas and New Year’s.

Many of you will be stepping out with friends tonight, and I wanted to wish you a happy and fun night. Here are some photos from a recent party Sergio and I hosted earlier this week.  I wish I had more pictures of everyone who stopped by but perhaps it is a sign of a good party – we simply forgot to take pictures and then later in the evening the photos became even more blurry than some of the ones used in this post. A telltale sign of our own vision at that hour I’m certain.Holiday Party 5Holiday Party 3Holiday Party 6Holiday Party 4Holiday party pictures

Bravo Jesse

Dirk Caber

Facebook photo that banned Jesse Jackman

My friend Jesse made some news last month when a photo of him kissing his partner was removed by Facebook, citing it violated their community standards. Long story short, the situation was rectified by Facebook rather quickly, but Jesse has penned an article that is on the Huffington Post today, We Must (Not) Surrender  that addresses a rather ugly side to last month’s story.

“…Dirk and I certainly feel that the definition and enforcement of their Community Standards policy needs significant refinement. However, we do not believe that Facebook is the enemy here. Our true adversaries are those who posted the hate-filled comments in the first place.

I think we can agree that there needs to be a modicum of respect when we interact with each other via social media.  The threats and bullying Jesse and his partner had directed at them on Facebook is the real story. I’d encourage you to read Jesse’s full article on Huffington Post here.

Meet my friends Miro and Vlad

Milton Hill Sport and SpaEarlier this summer I wrote about my friend and masseur, Miro, in my post Pampering in Ptown.  At the end of summer Miro (shown to the left) did not return to Bulgaria, rather he relocated to Milton where he and Vlad (also from Bulgaria and shown below) provide deep tissue massage at The Milton Hill Sport & Spa.

With the holiday season fast approaching an hour of pampering from either Miro or Vlad might make for the perfect gift.  However, just to make certain I suggest you make a reservation in the name of ‘research’ so you can speak with authority about how good these Bulgarians are with their hands.

Milton Hill Sport and Spa Massage Room

Both Miro and Vlad are hard working, great guys excited to make Boston their new home and I want to wish them much success at The Milton Hill Sport & Spa.  The Milton Hill Sport & Spa is located in the Chocolate Factory along the Milton / Dorchester line at 1 Eliot Street, Milton, MA.  Appointments are available 7-days a week from 9am – 7pm. 

Let me know if you make an appointment and be certain to tell Miro and Vlad BosGuy says “hello”.

Miro and Vlad

Miro and Vlad: Milton Hill Sport & Spa masseurs

Milton Hill Sport and Spa

1 Eliot Street, Milton, MA / (617) 698-0063

My personal trainers

Kris and StuThis is a photo of my current and past personal trainers (Kris and Stew).  Stew happens to be this week’s Furry Friday.

Don’t you think Kris would make for a great Furry Friday?

If you work out at the Boston Sports Club in the South End, I’m sure you are familiar with these guys.  Kris is a tad shy but quite a handsome guy.  If you see him at the gym or around town encourage him to follow in the footsteps of his friend and colleague, Stew.  If you don’t live in the area, leave some encouraging words in the form of a comment – you know both these guys will be checking this post to see what people say.

Today’s lesson: Know what you want

I love topsYou might think that this is obvious, but the reality is many people convince themselves that they really want something only to realize that once they achieve that goal, buy that product, marry that person of their dreams, etc… it isn’t what they want, like, or love.

Take a page out of my friend Jesse’s book and find out what you are really passionate about and love.  Everything else will work itself out – I promise.

9-11 remains a sad day

911September 11th remains a somber day. More than a decade later, I’m still transported to my Back Bay apartment when I first watched a commercial airliner fly into the second World Trade Center building in New York City.  I wasn’t able to process what I saw on TV that morning.  And in the days that followed I’d continue to struggle, realizing my good friend had been on the plane I had watched crash into the World Trade Center.

As I spent the next week with Sergio and our mutual friends Becky & Lisa, cleaning out his apartment to send his belongings back to his elderly parents who lived in the north of England, and to friends both near and far –  I kept replaying in my mind both the scene from TV of the crash as well as our last time together just a few days earlier.

Time hasn’t quite erased that image of the plane’s collision – nothing ever will – but it doesn’t dominate my thoughts the way it once did. However, each year at this time I inevitably think of my friend – thankful that I’d had the chance to be his friend and sad to think how our friendship was cut short.

How do you like my duck

Spending the weekend with friends in up state.

Blogger meet up (sort of)

Steve AliSteve Ali is originally from the island nation of Trinidad and Tobago but now lives and works in the Cayman Islands.  I’m not exactly sure when Steve and I started chatting but it was definitely a few years ago back when he maintained a blog any music enthusiast would enjoy called, Long Haired Boy.

Over the years, Steve has made a few trips to Boston to see concerts (he is madly passionate about music), but this was his first visit staying at chez BosGuy. He is such a great guy, attractive, interesting and fun to spend time with and I was really happy to have him here with me. One of the best unintended consequences of writing this blog has been the friendships that have resulted.

I do promise Steve that I’ll be taking you up at some point  on your hospitality and visiting The Cayman Islands – but I hope you come back again soon.

Black tie season around the corner

Black TieBlack tie season is about to go into full swing because most charities use Spring and Fall as opportunities to host galas and other fund raising events.  So break out your tuxedo if you have one or in my case, I’ll dust off my Filene’s Basement purchase and try to eek out yet another season.

Freedom opens in Sydney

FREEDOM-TEASERBrenton Parry who writes the entertaining blog Aussielicious has a photography exhibition opening on February 15th in Sydney Australia, and I wanted to wish him much success in this – his second show in as many years.

A few months ago I posted a teaser video Brenton had created to give you a taste of what one can expect from his show Freedom Teaser.

You can see more of Brenton’s photography here.

What’s up this weekend?

Guys DrinkingIt is finally Friday afternoon here in Boston, and I’m already thinking of what to do tonight.  Do I dare brave the cold and head out?

Do tell, what will you be doing this weekend?

Boxing Day dinner party

BoxerA good friend of mine and fellow blogger, 40-Something Life, is originally from the United Kingdom where December 26th is an official holiday called Boxing Day.

A few years ago she hosted a dinner party on Boxing Day and it was so much fun that with few exceptions, we’ve turned her annual dinner party on Boxing Day into our own tradition here in Boston.

The dinner party always seems to have a theme; years past have included a proper English themed-menu, a delicious Spanish menu, and one that included berets (although I don’t recall there being a French menu).  Details are fuzzy because of the copious amounts of wine poured.

The dinner party always starts with drinks followed by dinner and an always hysterical Yankee Swap after the table has been cleared.  Inappropriate gifts mingle with more creative gifts. After the swap, some sort of foolishness usually ensues. In years past this has included terrible impromptu dance performances, drunken Twister, and well you get the picture.

Later this evening Sergio and I will trek over to Southie to keep this tradition alive. Much thanks to our gracious host, Tracey.

Houseguests Miro and Kiril

One week ago today we said goodbye to Miro and Kiril (brothers from Varna, Bulgaria).  They boarded their flight from Boston to head home after spending the previous 3+ months working this summer in Provincetown. It was great to host them for a few days after a long summer of hard work.  Both Miro and Kiril relaxed and talked a lot about their home, Varna, Bulgaria, which looks beautiful in pictures.

Varna BulgariaMiro and Kiril’s home is on the coast of the Black Sea and is one of the largest cities in this European Country.  If you Google “Varna” you will no doubt see beautiful photos of the coast which looks like a great place to visit in the warmer months.  I have to admit prior to meeting these brothers, I never really thought about visiting Bulgaria, but maybe some day I’ll have to go and visit this city on the Black Sea.

Best of luck to Miro and Kiril who are now home studying at University. I hope we get a chance to see them again next summer in Ptown.