Category Archives: Relationships

How to survive a Boston winter

For the past few years, I’ve been writing posts in the fall to help people prepare for the oncoming winter and yesterday I shared my first tip, BosGuy Tip #1: Book a vacation now.

snuggle buddy

Cuddle Buddy Material

BosGuy Tip #2: Find a cuddle buddy. Since we can’t all afford to fly away every week, one needs a more practical if not economical option as well.  For this reason I strongly recommend identifying a cuddle buddy.

Not only can this help keep you warm during those colder months, but it has a number of other benefits that I don’t care to get into detail on this blog but probably are evident to my readers.  Summer is now over and hibernation is far more fun (not to mention warmer) with another.


OK Cupid wants me

OK CupidApparently gay men want me “So bad” and while I’m flattered, the professional marketer in me wonders who sold their list to OK Cupid? I wonder if I should expect something from Christian Mingle next?

BosGuy’s wish for you

Making the case for Valentine's DayI hope that 2014 will bring you much love (of the romantic variety). That is unless you happen to be looking at that special someone already in which case, please turn off your laptop, tablet or phone and spend the evening enjoying each other’s company rather than taking their presence for granted.

Recently Married Man Realized Marriage Is Not For Him

Is marriage for youHave you seen this letter by Seth Adam Smith that has gone viral? I think it should be mandatory to read and candidly discussed prior to anyone getting married.  The letter is brief, well written and poignant.

Regardless of your relationship status, read Seth’s touching letter. It is a quick read and worth your time.

Recently Married Man Realized Marriage Is Not For Him

I love you

relationshipsHave you ever been in love; romantic love? This topic came up recently, and I was surprised by the reticence expressed by friends who worried about being the first to say “I love you.”

So I’m curious and asking why someone might hold back and wait to express their feelings? I realize there is a lot to be said for waiting to make sure your feelings are true and you are not confusing ‘love’ with its more ephemeral cousin – lust.  I also recognize that one may want to use this word sparingly either because of the weight they feel this carries or concerns that the person hearing such a sentence may be caught off guard and not say (or mean it if they say) “I love you too.” 

These are all good reasons for caution, but I’ve never been upset to hear “I love you”. Actually that expression – esp. when it has been backed up by actions – has made me feel like a million bucks. If I will have any regrets at the end of my life it might be that I’ve said those three words too infrequently to Sergio, my family and my friends; maybe I’ll work on that starting today.

FULL DISCLOSURE: I’ve been in a relationship for 14+years, and I know there is nothing more annoying to someone who is single or dating than a person in a LTR talking about dating; I’m mindful and hopefully I’ve tread lightly. 

Straight people are so weird

straight people are so weirdStraight people are so weird.  These two guys decided to experience the pain of giving birth to show their wives that it wasn’t all that bad; the joke turned out to be on them as you can see from the wives high-fiving each other in the photograph.  Fortunately, it makes for an entertaining video to watch.


FriendsTo quote the character, Janice Litman from Friends, “Oh…My…Gawd!” This home remodeling adventure, which has been long overdue is past the point of no return. We’re now in a crunch to decide on paint color.

For those who do not know my partner or me, this is making me verklempt. So I’ll give you a topic to discuss amongst yourselves while I do my very best to pull myself together.

The phrase “home remodeling” makes no sense to me. This process has turned my home into a house and there is nothing about this process that makes me think of a model. I don’t see a photograph for the cover of a magazine.  I see a dump. They should call it House Demolition. Now discuss.