Scruffy Sunday

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T4J looks to bring holiday cheer to detained migrant children this Christmas: Please help

Detention center in McAllen, Texas. Photo: Center for Border Protection

The organizers of  Toys for Joys, Inc. (T4J), recently hosted their 10th Anniversary Gala this month and I’m pleased to share that it was an amazing success; toys and gifts from the event are being sent to children and teens throughout Massachusetts. This week T4J has taken on a new challenge and they need your help to spread the word. Please read and share this post or the link included below with as many people as you know, because time is of the essence.BostonT4J is working to collect additional donations for 5,000 migrant children (many of whom) have been separated from their families and are in the equivalent of detention centers. T4J has a lofty goal of raising $50,000 in the next week to help brighten what must be a terribly frightening time for these children.

If you would like to help, please visit the T4J website and make a donation today.
DONATE HERE: Toys for Joys

Saturday morning coffee

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Saturday morning comics

gay cartoon, gay comic, James Asal Jr.ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about Adam and Andy and purchase a copy of “the definitive collection of Adam and Andy” by visiting,

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45 years ago homosexuality was declassified as a mental disorder

Forty-five years ago tomorrow, (December 15, 1973) the American Psychiatric Association (APA) voted to remove homosexuality from its list of mental disorders. The vote was in favor of declassification but was not universally agreed upon with  5,854 (60%) psychiatrists voting to remove homosexuality from the DSM, and 3,810 (40%) to retain it. Following the vote the APA created a compromise, removing homosexuality from the DSM and putting in place something called a “sexual orientation disturbance” for people who were deemed “in conflict with” their sexual orientation. This bogus compromise was eventually completely discredited by 1987, but its stain lingers. It is this “sexual orientation disturbance” that many in Conversion / Reparative therapy still point to.

We all know the fight to recognize LGBTQ identities as valid and valuable continues. One need only look to the people in the White House to realize how quickly our gains can be taken away and the contempt they hold for the LGBTQ community. It was only last October that Trump was reported joking with staff that VP Mike Pence hates homosexuals so much he wants to “hang all of them.”

So while we should be proud of how far we’ve come in forty-five years, we should not become complacent.

Furry Friday

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BosGuy brain teaser

riddle, exercise for your brainEach Friday morning I post a riddle to get you to think outside the box and exercise your brain. If you are stumped, share it with a friend or colleague and see if you can figure out the answer together.

I’ll confirm answers in the afternoon so don’t worry if you don’t see your comment posted right away. I want to give everyone a chance to guess.

Some of you may recall this riddle which I post around this time each year.

This week’s brain teaser:  

This time of year is filled with songs
That through the world are heard.
And this classic holiday melody
Is titled with just two words.

The first syllable of Word #1
Is a sound you might make when down.
The second syllable of this word
Might come from a cotton gown.

The second word can be found
On a board with sixty-four squares.
Four of these appear at the start
And all of them look like mares.

Like riddles? Check out past week’s brain teasers.