Vintage gay

Much thanks to the The Vintage Life blog for this week’s photo. No idea if these two guys were a couple although they certainly look cute together. Anyone care to take a guess when this photo may have been taken based on their appearance and clothing?

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

Book review: Just By Looking At Him

Ryan O’Connell who is the creator, writer and star of Netflix’s Special (an absolutely hilarious series I recommend watching) has published an equally candid and funny novel based on his life experiences as an out gay man living with Cerebral Palsy (CP) and working in Hollywood.

Just By Looking At Him is about falling in and out of love, seeking acceptance, how complicated relationships (romantic, platonic, and familial) can be, and coming to terms with loving yourself. Not exactly, new territory, but O’Connell’s experience as a gay man living with CP adds a twist to this tale, and it provides a glimpse into his world and how the world sees him.

The novel is for everyone, but as a gay man, I found it impossible to put down. Frank stories about gay men and their relationships are rarely this entertaining. The book’s opening paragraph reads, “My boyfriend Gus has a beautiful penis. It’s big and thick without being too big or too thick. It has the right number of pulsating veins when hard (the correct number is two). It’s not crooked or bent. It’s not purple or pink. It’s sun-dappled olive.” O’Connell talks about gay sex and gay relationships so matter of factly and always with a sense of humor calling out his own prejudices even as he rails against what he might refer to as an able-bodied bias.

There are some really beautiful insights in this book as well. One of my favorite lines is when he writes, “But the ultimate irony of being insecure is that you’re consumed with your least favorite subject: yourself.” It’s this balance between humor and heart that makes this book a real winner. I loved it from start to finish. If you’re looking for a book that isn’t just fluff and will make you smile (and sometimes laugh out loud), definitely pick up this book.

If you’re interested in purchasing this book and open to supporting local bookstores, try one of the links. You’ll be able to order the book in just a couple of clicks. Alternatively, you can check your local library for a copy of this book. Here is a link to the BPL copy for Just By Looking At Him.

Brookline Booksmith in Coolidge Corner
Harvard Bookstore in Harvard Square
Porter Square Bookstore in Porter Square
Trident Bookseller’s & Cafe in Back Bay

Caption this photo

Hopefully the caption I’ve shared below inspires you to offer up one or two of your own. Leave a funny caption in the comment section, and I’ll approve it for readers to enjoy.

“Your hands can’t touch the ball!”

Gay RomCom: Bros opens Friday

Luke MacFarlane and Billy Eichner filming a scene from Bros in front of A-House in Provincetown

I haven’t been to the movie theater in quite some time but Sergio and I plan to check out the movie Bros, which opens on Friday, September 30th.

Last August I was contacted by one of their casting managers and asked if I could help spread the word that they would be filming in Provincetown the following month and encourage interested people with “quirky personalities” to answer the open casting call. I wrote about it here. Sergio had the time off (and he has a quirky personality) so he answered the casting call and was selected for the filming.

I know there has been a lot of back and forth within the LGBTQ+ community about this movie, but I’m excited to see it. I love the feelgood and corny appeal of the RomCom movie genre, I love the idea of Provincetown being a backdrop for a few scenes in the movie, and I’m more than a little curious and excited to see if I can spot Sergio in one of the scenes filmed there.

If you’re unfamiliar with the movie, you can read more about the storyline and who is starring in the film here.

Temptation Tuesday


Past Temptation Tuesday Posts

Men in kilts

I don’t know this guy’s real name but I know him from his presence on social media (handlebar). I assume he has either Scottish heritage or an affinity for Scotland because he has many photos of him wearing a kilt. This is a photo of him goofing around and posing after chucking an axe at a bullseye.

Previous Men in Kilts Posts

Monday morning mancandy

Think of these weekly posts as calorie free, guilty pleasures posted to distract you from the fact it is yet again a Monday morning.

BAGS Sunset Boston Harbor Cruise

Tickets are still on sale for The Boston Alliance of Gay Sports (BAGS) sunset Boston Harbor Cruise on Sunday, October 2nd.

The harbor cruise will take place onboard the Music City Queen, an ornamental sternwheeler/riverboat named after the city of Nashville. Boarding will begin at Rowes Wharf at 2:30 p.m. and departs at 3:00 p.m. The Music City Queen will dock at 6:00 p.m.

BAGS Sunset Boston Harbor Cruise
Sunday October 2
Boarding at Rowes Wharf at 2:30PM

For more information and to purchase your tickets visit the eventbrite page set up for the event, Boston Harbor Cruise presented by The Boston Alliance for Gay Sports.

Scruffy Sunday

Mike and Lando are engaged and live in Santiago Chile. I first shared a photo of them in a Scruffy Sunday post in July, which was very popular. You can see the previous post, here.

Previous Scruffy Sunday Posts

Saturday morning coffee

Enjoy your morning coffee, and have a great day.

Furry Friday

Past Furry Friday

BosGuy brain teaser

riddle, exercise for your brainEach Friday morning I post a riddle to get you to think outside the box and exercise your brain. If you are stumped, share it with a friend or colleague and see if you can figure out the answer together.

Leave your answer in the comment section. I’ll approve responses later in the day to give people a chance to respond without seeing any spoilers.

This week’s brain teaser: How far can you run into the woods?

Like riddles? Check out past week’s brain teasers.

What to do this weekend

Below is a list of LGBTQ+ events and parties happening this weekend. Scroll to the bottom of this post to see a listing of drag brunches. Have an event you want included? Email

Boston Gay Bars

The Alley
THURSDAY: Trivia Night w/ Daddy Dave @8PM
FRIDAY: DJ Begbick @10PM
SATURDAY: Tremors w/ DJ Scott Helms @10PM
SUNDAY: Bearaoke Night @8PM

THURSDAY: Taco Thursdays w/ Pride Sports Boston & UK RPDR w/ host Harlow Havoc
FRIDAY: Friday Feels w/ music by Twisted Gleam @10PM
SATURDAE: So Hot Saturdaes Studio 54 w/ DJ Stevie Psyclone @10PM
SUNDAY: Disco Brunch (reservations on Open Table) @11AM

Cathedral Station
THURSDAY: Red Sox play Yankees @7PM
FRIDAY: Red Sox play Yankees @7PM
SATURDAY: Red Sox play Yankees @1PM
SUNDAY: Brunch starts @11AM | Patriots play Ravens @1PM | Red Sox play Yankees @7PM

Club Cafe
THURSDAY: Discoteca Musica do Brasil w/ DJ Begbick @10PM
FRIDAY: RPDR viewing party @8PM & DJ Stevie Psyclone @10PM
SATURDAY: DJ Brian Derrick @10PM
SUNDAY: Sunday brunch @11AM & Tea w/ DJ Andrea Stamas @6PM

FRIDAY: Karaoke w/ DJ Bobby Knight @10PM
SATURDAY: Slay Saturday w/ DJ Begbick @10PM
SUNDAY: Brunch (reservations on Open Table) @11AM & Tea at d w/ DJ Cole Slaw @4PM

Jacques Cabaret – Call 617-426-8902 to reserve seats to shows
THURSDAY: Now That’s What I Call A Drag Show! hosted by Amanda Playwith & Crystal Crawford @8PM
FRIDAY: Drag Me To The Main Stage hosted by Destiny
SATURDAY: Drag Me To The Main Stage Hosted by DeeDee de Ray
SUNDAY: Sunday Fun Day – Open Mic night w/ Mitzzy @7PM

Legacy & Candibar (Gay Mafia Boston)
THURSDAY: Serve Thursdays w/ host Violencia & DJ Coleslaw @10PM
FRIDAY: Bussdown Friday w/ DJ Frenchy @10PM
SATURDAY: Furball w/ DJ James Anthony to Legacy @10PM
SUNDAY: Hot Mess at Candibar @10PM

Trophy Room
THURSDAY: Red Sox play Yankees @7PM
FRIDAY: Red Sox play Yankees @7PM
SATURDAY: Red Sox play Yankees @1PM
SUNDAY: Brunch starts @12PM | Patriots play Ravens @1PM | Red Sox play Yankees @7PM

LGBTQ+ Programming / Events

THURSDAY: Queeraoke is at Midway Cafe @10PM

THURSDAY: Musico do Brasil w/ DJ Begbick at Club Cafe @10PM

FRIDAY: Rocky Horror Picture Show at the Coolidge @11:59PM

FRIDAY, SATURDAY & SUNDAY: Mean Queens a parody by Nerkolaus at Jacques Underground

FRIDAY: Velvet Fridays for Boston’s Queer Women at Koy in Chinatown @10PM

SATURDAY: Lesbian NightLife Single n Social at The Anchor in Charlestown @6PM

SATURDAY: PITY Party Boston’s Queer EMO night at Union Tavern @9PM

SUNDAY: Bears Brews & Boys Oktoberfest at DBco @4PM

SUNDAY: Vogue Knights at Icon @7PM

SUNDAY: Bearaoke is at The Alley @8PM



Some drag brunches require tickets purchased ahead of time. Click the event links shared below for ticketing and reservation information.

Illusions The Drag Brunch Boston
Saturday & Sunday shows @1:30PM
Hosted upstairs at Hennessey’s

Dragtacular Brunch: Whitney vs Mariah
Saturday @12PM
Laugh Boston

DRAGTEASE 1-Year Anniversary
Sunday @11AM
9 Lansdowne

Drag Me To Brunch
Sunday @2PM
Carrie Nation Cocktail Club

And finally… another resource for what is happening at Boston gay bars is KikiPedia.

Vintage gay

I love this week’s vintage gay photo of Frank and Jack which dates back 80 years ago to 1942. I’d love to know if they were more than friends who liked to share ice creams and photo booth photos.

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

Little Christmas Tree Shop of Horrors

Ryan Landry and The Gold Dust Orphans return this winter with their holiday spectacular, Little Christmas Tree Shop of Horrors.

Little Christmas Tree Shop of Horrors
Holiday Run: December 1 – 23
At The Iron Wolf Theatre in S. Boston
Get Your Tickets Here!

For those uninitiated, Landry and his creative troupe of theatrical misfits have been entertaining audiences in Boston and Provincetown for more than two decades. The holiday shows in recent years have been absolutely irreverant and hilarious poking fun at gay cliches, social mores / customs, and of course conservative politics.

About Little Christmas Tree Shop of Horrors
Who is killing the somewhat innocent, questionably respectable people of Revere, Massachusetts? And at Christmas, for Christs sake! Nervous Dollar Store manager, Norbert Feinstein knows, but he’s too busy pining for his co-worker, Tawdry and running from his boss, everyone’s favorite holiday villain, Hermione P. Grinchley! Things look pretty bleak for our heroes until they come across the strangest little Christmas tree… a Christmas tree that KILLS!