What to do this week: March 19 – 25

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This week there is a lot happening including: Opus Affair Monthly Cocktail SocialTaste of the South End (hope you have your tickets already), Bi+/Curious Guyz Social Night, a new RPDR viewing night – RuPaul Fantasy League, and the monthly BRASH | Queer Party.

Things get even more busy over the weekend with FASCINATION FridayThank You For Being A Quiz: Golden Girls Trivia (fundraiser for Boston Gay Men’s Chorus), Boston Frontrunners March SocialDon’t Ask Don’t Tell and about 20 other events, parties and fundraisers. 

I’d also like to give a shout out to the newly formed Boston’s Gays Against Guns who will be meeting on Monday in preparation for the national protest which will also happen here in Boston on Saturday – March For Our Lives.


Taste of The South End is Tuesday, March 20, 2018


Pizza & Game Night is every Monday from 5-9PM (check out their ping pong and foosball tables) at Dorchester Brewery in Dorchester

Opus Affair Monthly Cocktail Social takes place at Lion’s Tail at the Ink Block on Monday starting at 6PM (all are welcome but RSVP so they can ensure the bar is adequately staffed!) in Boston

Boston’s Gays Against Guns is meeting at Cinquecento on Monday at 6PM to discuss the protest march on the 24th and painting shirts to wear and sell during the protest. bring what ever you want sprayed. shirts, jackets, tote bags, ponchos. we’ll provide the spray paint and stencils. Dress warmly!

Drag Bingo is every Monday starting at 7PM free to play at Club Cafe in Boston

Taste of the South End brings together 40 fantastic restaurants to raise money for the AIDS Action Committee at the BCA on Tuesday starting at 6PM

Trivia Tuesday is every Tuesday at the Dorchester Brewing Company and starts at 7:30PM in Dorchester

Showtune Tuesday hosted by VJ Ryan Grow starts at 9PM every Tuesday at dbar in Dorchester

Karaoke Night starts at 10PM every Tuesday at Jacques in Boston

Stump Trivia with Jonathan Brett is guaranteed fun and has lots of prizes (trivia starts at 8PM) hosted every Tuesday at Club Cafe in Boston

Bi+/Curious Guyz Social Night is a monthly meet up for bisexual men to meet and socialize on Wednesday from 6-8PM at Club Cafe in Boston

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Gay Secrets of the MFA SOLD OUT but if this is something that sounds interesting to you check it out on FB as additional dates have been added

DotOUT’s Midweek Meltdown after work cocktails social is this Wednesday starting at 6:30 – 8:30 at Tavolo in Dorchester

Sports Night at Peggy’s  is every Wednesday night at Peggy O’Neil’s pub in Dorchester

Atomic Karaoke with DJ Stevie Psyclone & Jonathan Brett is every Wednesday at Club Cafe in Boston

Beacons of Light: The 2018 Icon Awards Dinner hosted by MassEquality will honor MA Attorney General Maura Healey on Thursday starting at 6PM at the Hotel Marlowe in Cambridge

Queer Boston Board Gamers is meeting Thursday from 6-9PM at the Panera Bread at Porter Square in Cambridge

RuPaul Fantasy League watch RPDR Season 10 live at Peggy’s and pick the three girls you think will steal this season’s crown this Thursday in Dorchester

Bear Trivia Night is at 8PM every Thursday at The Alley Bar in DTX Boston

BRASH | Queer Party is hosted every fourth Thursday at Brass Union from 9PM – 1AM in Union Square, Somerville

Karaoke Thursdays is every Thursday at Machine with your hosts Rob Botelho and Emphysema Menthol 100s in Boston

Meet us on the Boston Common on Saturday starting at Noon


Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders in Somerville

Casual Fridays is a weekly dance party with no cover featuring DJ Begbick at the Alley Bar in DTX

Latin Friday is upstairs at Machine every Friday starting at 10PM in Boston

FASCINATION Friday is a monthly gear/ fetish/ kink night at Jacques the 1st and 4th Friday of the month in Boston

March For Our Lives is a national protest that will take place across the USA on Saturday, March 24th so come down to the Boston Common from 12-5PM

Thank You For Being A Quiz: Golden Girls Trivia (tickets required because money will go to Boston Gay Men’s Chorus) is taking place at the Alley on Saturday from 3PM – 6PM

Boston Frontrunners March Social is on Saturday and starts at 6PM (all are welcome) at The Glass House in Kendall Square Cambridge

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Singles Pool Tournament, Saturday at Cathedral Station, 7:30 – 10:30PM

Singles Pool Tournament returns on Saturday night at Cathedral Station from 7:30 – 10:30PM in Boston

The Sinner’s Ball: Geared is at Mainestreet on Saturday night in Ogunquit

Video Night Tracks every Saturday night join VJ Ryan Grow at Cathedral Station starting at 9:30PM

dbar Ultra Violet Black Light Party is Saturday night so put on your brightest neon clothes so you are sure to glow under the black lights

Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is a monthly queer dance party at Great Scott in Allston

The Donkey Show is the ultimate disco experience is a story inspired by A Midsummer Night’s Dream each Saturday at Club Oberon in Cambridge.

gay bostonGrunt is a weekly dance party with no cover for burly men and their admirers, starting at 10PM at the Alley Bar in DTX

Brunch with the Gay Men 50+ / Friendship Meet Up takes place on Sunday at Club Cafe – be sure to join and RSVP with this Meet Up Group

Tennessee Williams Birthday Bash is hosted at the Sage Inn for the Ptown Tennessee Williams Theater Festival from 4-6 on Sunday in Provincetown

Sunday Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 6PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Empress 14 Kris Knievil’s Birthday Bash is a  charity drag show &  roast at Jacques Cabaret on Sunday starting at 6PM in Bay Village

Karaoke at the Alley is every Sunday starting at 8PM in Boston

Pajama Party is a weekly dance party hosted every Sunday starting at 10PM at Machine in Boston

Hot Mess Sundays at Candibar in the Theater District is every Sunday starting at 10PM in Boston

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.

BosGuy blog nominated for a Liebster Award

gay blogging awardLast fall I started following a blogger in Brisbane, Australia who writes the blog, Living Gay Brisbane, but lately he’s found himself in the throws of a romance that I’d love to hear more about when he feels comfortable opening up about it. Earlier today I visited his blog and noticed that he had nominated BosGuy.com for an Australian blogging award called the Liebster Award.

The concept behind this award is to help bring exposure to different blogs – something I can really appreciate . The nomination process requires me to answer questions and nominate two bloggers. I will nominate Aussielicious and my husband & i, two well known blogs, and bloggers I respect and read.

My Nominees: Aussielicious & my husband & i blogsLiebster Award

Why did you start your blog? and where do you see it in the future?
I started BosGuy.com to better understand how to blog so I could apply that knowledge in my professional life and at the same time I thought I could capture life events to have something to look back upon. The blog quickly evolved into more than that, and now I use it primarily as a way to promote LGBTQ life here in Boston and in the summer in Provincetown and Ogunquit.

What advice would you give to your younger self?
I echo Living Gay Brisbane’s advice. I would encourage my younger self to have come out earlier. However, growing up at the height of the AIDS epidemic in a small, close-minded community that perceived homosexuality as a perversion impacted me more than I’d care to admit and am proud that I was at least able to come to terms with who I was when I did despite my surroundings.

Who in your inner circle did you first show your blog to?
South End ParkLong time readers won’t be surprised that I first showed my blog to my partner, Sergio, who was very supportive of the idea and remains my unofficial PR manager – consistently sharing my posts and telling people about BosGuy.com.

Love, sex or money? Which one would you choose?
I want all of it and don’t think you have to compromise. Love and sex are the opposite sides of the same coin – I can’t imagine having one without the other and fortunately for nearly 20 years, I’ve not had to compromise. With regards to money, my partner and I will never be wealthy as compared to the financial success many of our friends have attained, but we are more than able to pay our bills and that affords us an opportunity to enjoy our time together in a way many cannot. I know how lucky we are and try not to take it for granted.

What is your idea of the perfect first date?
Sorry, I couldn’t resist – it truly was the first thing that came to mind.

What are your non-negotiables when it comes to a boyfriend?
Someone who I can be honest with and who can help me be the best possible version of myself. I also need that person to allow me to be that same source of inspiration for them. Corny, I know but also true in my case.

The first time I realized I was in love?
I realized my feelings for Sergio went deeper than anyone I’d previously met after we had an argument, while we were traveling in Brazil. In previous situations that discord would have resulted in me walking away, but despite my frustration it didn’t even cross my mind. The moment that realization sunk in – it was a game changer.

Celebrity crush?Celebrity crushIf Chris Hemsworth or Lenny Kravitz ever wanted to come over and hang out for some Netflix & chill, I think I could clear my calendar to make that happen.

Thank you for the nomination Living Gay BrisbaneAussieliciousmy husband & i feel free to answer the following questions and nominate two bloggers you respect and enjoy should you like to accept my nomination.

  1. Why did you start your blog? and where do you see it in the future?
  2. What advice would you give to your younger self?
  3. Who in your circle did you first show your blog to?
  4. Love, Sex or Money? Which one would you choose?
  5. What is your idea of the Perfect first date?
  6. What are your non-negotiables when it comes to a relationship?
  7. First time you realised you were in love?
  8. Celebrity Crush?


  • Display your nomination on your blog and thank the person who nominated you.
  • Nominate other bloggers for this award and let them know about it.
  • Form questions for them or do as I did and use the ones provided.

Bayard Rustin breakfast, Saturday, April 7

bayard rustin breakfast, gay rights, aids action committeeOn Saturday, April 7th AIDS Action Committee (AAC) will host their 29th annual Bayard Rustin community breakfast at the John Fitzgerald Kennedy Presidential Library. Tickets remain available and you can learn more about this community event by visiting AAC’s event page, Bayard Rustin Breakfast.

Bayard Rustin Breakfast: Saturday, April 7, 2018 9:30AM – 12:30PM

Yesterday, March 17th was Bayard Rustin’s birthday so I thought it appropriate to provide this annual community event a shout out.  You can learn more about this civil rights pioneer, social activist and later in life Gay rights activist here.

Scruffy Sunday

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Happy St. Patrick’s Day

St. Patrick's DaySeth and I would like to wish you a very happy (if not chilly here in Boston) St. Patrick’s Day. Erin Go Brrrrrrrrr!

Saturday morning coffee

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Saturday morning comics

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ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about this strip by visiting, adamandandy.com.

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