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Returning for a second year, Haikus with Hotties is a calendar that pokes fun at racial stereotypes and challenges the status quo which seems to shy away from featuring Asian men as sexually desirable. As a fan of poetry and men I felt compelled to share the news about this calendar returning for its second year. For less than $20 it also makes for a great Yankee Swap gift.
To order a copy or for more information visit, haikuswithhotties.com.
I wanted to take a moment to congratulate a local hero of mine, Mary Bonauto. Although she isn’t a household name and is likely to be quickly looked over by those skimming through this year’s OUT 100, she is a woman who has changed the world for the better. Mary Bonauto has worked tirelessly for the LGBTQ community here in Boston and across the country. In the OUT 100 issue they describe her as a lawyer and civil rights advocate who was one of the three attorneys who argued for same-sex marriage before the Supreme Court in 2015. However, her legal successes span decades of work thanks to her keen legal mind and chutzpah. Massachusetts former US Representative, Barney Frank, has referred to her as the LGBTQ community’s Thurgood Marshall and I’m inclined to agree.
Most of her work has been done while at GLAD (Gay Legal Advocates and Defenders) which is based here in Boston and should not be confused with GLAAD. Other highlights to her distinguished career include being the lead counsel in the 2003 case Goodridge v. Department of Public Health which made Massachusetts the first state in which same-sex couples could marry in 2004. She is also responsible for leading the first strategic challenges to section three of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).
Congratulations Mary. We are all lucky to have you. And those of us here in Massachusetts are especially proud of you and the work you’ve done.
A couple years ago BuzzFeed posted this quick and easy (unscientific – I feel like that needs to be stressed these days) quiz to determine how ‘privileged’ you are. While I don’t take these online quizzes too seriously – and I hope you don’t either – they can be a fun distraction. This particular online quiz also made me reflect on some of the things I take for granted as well as some things that I’ve learned to either overcome or at a minimum not dwell upon.
I scored a 54 out of 100 points. The survey explains, “You’re quite privileged. You’ve had a few struggles, but overall your life has been far easier than most. This is not a bad thing, nor is it something to be ashamed of. But you should be aware of your advantages and work to help others who don’t have them.”
I normally wouldn’t share this survey, but the final sentence, “But you should be aware of your advantages and work to help others who don’t have them.” struck a chord with me.
Much thanks to my friend, David G, for pointing out that I neglected to include a link to the survey if you’d like to give it a try. Chalk it up to the hazzards of self editing! Link here: How Privileged Are You.
Each year we make this trip together and while my blog will be up and running while I’m away, if you’d like to see what we are doing while visiting Brazil, follow me on my Instagram account: instagram.com/bosguyblog.
My friend Slobodan (shown above) posted these beautiful photos on his facebook page and was nice enough to let me share them. The pictures were taken this week in Maine. For those of you who have visited northern New England in the fall you know just how vibrant these colors and landscapes are. Thank you Slobodan for sharing your beautiful photographs.
Damien writes 2 Shoes & A Broom out in Kansas City and earlier this week he published a list 21 things that he likes. He asked me if I would compile a similar list and his request made me think of my mother who would routinely ask us at the dinner table to name three positive things that had happened to us that day. So this post is in response to Damien’s request and in tribute of my Mom.
2 – Holidays: I like any excuse to get together with friends or family and the fact that the office is usually closed on these days is a bonus.
3 – Chocolate: The darker the chocolate the greater my addiction.
5 – Live theater: Plays and musicals tug at my heart strings, make me laugh unexpectedly and entertain me in a way that movies cannot.
6 – Ancient history: I can’t explain it, but I always end up watching documentaries about Ancient Egypt, Babylon, Greece, Rome, etc…
8 – Fridays: I feel like this is self-explanatory.
9 – Sense of Humor: I tend to be sarcastic and snarky, and I am at a total loss when I meet someone who lacks one.
11 – Red Sox: I will always love the Red Sox – always.
12 – Pizza: I could eat it for breakfast, lunch or dinner 7-days a week.
14 – Reading: Probably my favorite past time and way to escape reality. My favorite genres are mysteries, espionage, historical fiction and fantasy.
15 – Madonna: The obsession started in grade school and continues to this day although I no longer annoy friends by speaking in Madonna lyrics (thank god).
17 – Poetry: If you read this blog regularly you will know that I have an abiding love of poetry.
18 – Flowers: A little known fact about me – I buy fresh cut flowers for my house almost every week.
20 – Coffee: I like it so much that I have a weekly post each Saturday morning of men drinking a cup of joe.
21 – My Blog: What started as an experiment in in the fall of 2007 has turned into an incredibly rewarding hobby that has introduced me to interesting people both near and far – so to Damien who challenged me to this post and those of you who I’ve had the opportunity to meet, thank you.