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Nice White Parents

I love podcasts. The format (when done correctly) is similar to story hour and the people over at Serial Productions are better at this than most. I’ve written about Serial in the past so when their latest podcast series, “Nice White Parents” was announced a couple of weeks ago I was interested.

This latest production looks at the 60-year relationship between white parents and the public school down the block — in this case in Brooklyn. The podcast asks why after decades of school reform, do so many inequities still exist? Reporter, Chana Joffe-Walt, looked at inequality in education and deduced that most reforms focused on who schools were failing: Black and brown kids, but rarely addressed who the schools are serving. The five-part series, focuses on what is arguably the most powerful force in our schools, white parents.

Listen and subscribe to “Nice White Parents” from your mobile device: Via Apple Podcasts | Via Spotify | Via Google

I’ve only had the chance to listen to the first episode, but I’m already hooked.

LGBT in Three with Randy Price

Boston Spirit Magazine has teamed up with Randy Price, who was the country’s first openly gay TV news anchor, to provide a quick weekly update about news impacting the LGBT community in New England over the past week.

This past Friday was the inaugural broadcast – check it out. You can get these updates in your news feed by liking the Boston Spirit Magazine Facebook page.

Weekend on the brain

New England has been enjoying a beautiful stretch of weather and the forecast for this weekend appears as if it will continue the streak of sunny skies and warm temperatures so (of course) I have the weekend on the brain.

Do you have any plans this weekend? How do you plan to recharge and make the most of this bizarre – socially distant – summer?

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How are you doing?

Although my blog’s focus is on LGBTQ life in Boston and Provincetown and is filled with visuals – specifically of the handsome male variety, I can’t help but pause momentarily to check-in and ask, “How are you doing?”

I ask in part because I’ve been struggling and not finding much of a respite. Pressures from work compounded by a pandemic, a steady stream of videos of police brutality, and belligerent posturing from our Divider-in-Chief has taken a toll on me and my usually cheery disposition. I figured if someone who looks like me and has led a fairly charmed life thus far is having a rough go, it’s hard to imagine the mental frame of mind for marginalized communities, those who are alone, without a strong support system or have a history of struggling with emotions and feelings of depression and anxiety.

I’d encourage everyone to reach out to friends and family to talk and check-in. In reaching out, I’ve found out that several close connections are struggling. In this age of group Zoom chats, texts and social media posting, it is good to remember that a one-on-one phone conversation can be both healing and helpful so to borrow a line from this 80s AT&T commercial, reach out and touch someone.

For anyone feeling alone or isolated, remember there are a lot of really wonderful people out there and organizations like the Samaritans with trained volunteers standing by should you want to talk but feel like you have nobody to turn to at this time.

Check out my Covid cut

BosGuy, haircutThis past weekend I asked Sergio to cut my hair – a first in our 21 year+ relationship. I will admit I was nervous about asking him to give me a trim but my last haircut had been in mid March and after 8+ weeks I was overdue to put it mildly. I tweeted out the middle photo (below) on Sunday, which resulted in a lot of likes and more than a few comments asking to see an after photo so I wanted to share Sergio’s good work. I feel like a million bucks.

I still can’t get over the barely there facial hair after 8 weeks of no shaving! So glad it is gone and that little experiment is finally done. While I love facial hair on other guys, I’m just not genetically wired to grow it. Below are a are a couple of photos from Sergio trimming my hair this weekend.  Thank you Sergio!

Coronavirus rant: Calm the f*ck down

Calm DownI’m veering from my usual topic and string of man candy posts for a momentary rant about our nation’s  response to COVID-19.  Guidance from the White House has been erratic at best, and I attribute the President’s failure to lead as the main reason for so much misinformation and general hysteria. After all Trump has gone from accusing Democrats and media of fear mongering and exaggerating, even suggesting this was a hoax and mortality rates shared by the World Health Organization as not that serious to implementing travel bans and declaring a national emergency. 

Due in large part to Trump’s failure to lead, there has been  a run on items like hand sanitizers and some are hoarding items like paper towels and toilet paper. Take 1-minute (well really 1:20) to listen to Judy Woodruff who closed the Friday night News Hour with a far more sane response than I’ve heard come from our President and a far more compassionate response that I hope will appeal to your better senses. Perhaps the White House can take cues from Judy and others in the media who have provided similar messages to help bring the nation together.

Fun day tubing at Gunstock Mountain

Our friend, Tiago, is visiting from Brazil. His one ask was for us to show him snow so we took him to Gunstock Mountain to go snow tubing. It proved to be much more fun than I expected and would be fun to do again. After hitting the slopes, I introduced Sergio and Tiago to the concept of après ski.

Below is a video of our first run; I’m up front losing my mind and convinced I will fly off the tube; Sergio is holding our tubes so we can go down together; and Tiago is taping the run and shouting in Portuguese.

Saturday morning comics

ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about Adam and Andy and purchase a copy of “the definitive collection of Adam and Andy” by visiting, adamandandy.com.

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Click here if you would like to see  the previous Adam & Andy

Fresh Fruit is Born Again

If you’ve lived in Boston for a while you may recognize / remember the drag troupe, Fresh Fruit. It appears the the group has been reborn and is bringinng a new show to Club Cafe starting this Friday with shows on Saturdays and Sunday (matinee shows) through November 23rd. Some of their shows have already sold out so don’t delay and get tickets while tehy last.

Fresh Fruit is Born Again
all shows are at Club Café
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Lauded for their razor sharp wit and take no prisoner’s approach to political, religious, and social institutions, these Queens are ready to hit the stage at Club Café.  If you loved Fresh Fruit before (or Bitter Bitch’s Golden Girls or Menopausal Mermaid), you won’t want to miss out on this hilarious song parody send up of everything you may think, but never say.

For a taste of what you might expect at the Club Cafe show, here is a video from Fresh Fruit back in the day.

Happy birthday USA

Independence DayIt is Independence day in the USA and while I feel like our reputation has taken a hit in recent years (a self-inflicted hit at that), there is still plenty to be proud of and to celebrate so for everyone in the US and to those living abroad; have a wonderful July 4th.

50 years of love

50 years ago my parents said, “I do.”, and today we are celebrating 50 years of happy memories. Congratulations Mom and Dad. You’re a constant source of inspiration.

Vintage gay

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at bosguymail@gmail.com.

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

Men in kilts

This week’s post is dedicated to all those fathers out there to celebrate Father’s Day which was celebrated yesterday in the United States.

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Gen Z and Millennials are reshaping the social fabric of America (and that’s a good thing)

Last month the NYT had an article that caught my eye and made me feel more optimistic about the future. The article, Young Voters Keep Moving to the Left on Social Issues, Republicans Included, points to  how Gen-Z and Millennials are far more racially and ethnically diverse and how those differences are shaping their views the world. For example, according to a survey from Pew Research Center, 64% of Millennials believe government should play a bigger role in their lives as opposed to 49% of Boomers. Both younger generation cohorts also overwhelmingly favor social issues like same sex marriage and agree that there is systemic racism that results in Black Americans being treated unfairly. Let that sink in for a minute.

knoema corporationWhile there is no doubt that many of the views of these young men and women will evolve and change, the demographics of a more multicultural, multiracial society is changing the fabric of our society in ways that are very visible as well as in ways that we have yet to fully realize. Combine that with the knowledge that in 2019 Millennials will outnumber Baby Boomers and it makes elections moving forward far more interesting; assuming Millennials will head to the voting booth.

NH Ice Castle is now open

winter funLooking to channel your inner Elsa? You need to make a trip up to NH which is home to one of six ice castles in North America. This year’s towering castle is estimated to weigh more than 20 million pounds and will feature tunnels, thrones, fountains, slides and LED lights.

Tickets are now on sale. For more information visit their website, icecastles.com/new-hampshire. Planning a visit and need directions? Click here.

The 2019 ice castle is a few miles away from where it has been the past five years and is located on Clark Farm Road in North Woodstock, NH. This year for the first time, visitors to Ice Castles can buy tickets for horse-drawn sleigh rides.