Boston’s first snow came surprisingly early this year. Typically snowfall doesn’t start until December but this year it looks like Mother Nature is feeling lonely and trying to cozy up to Ol’ Man Winter.
I took the photo of Union Park in Boston’s South End to capture how beautiful it looked. I forgot how quiet the city gets during a snowfall.
HBO Max’s new docudrama Equal premieres tonight and sets out to tell the story of LGBTQ+ liberation in America; a rich, volatile, and ongoing struggle full of victories, defeats, and a great many heroes that until recently were intentionally erased from history.
“In 1952, admitting to being gay would get you 15 years in jail“
Perhaps people take for granted their history, associating it with boring classroom lectures (“Bueller… Bueller… Bueller”, but I digress). However, if your history was taken from you or erased as is the case with many LGBTQ+ people then you are a group without an identity.
It is from the past that we learn, so by removing stories like the 1966 uprising at Compton’s Cafeteria in San Francisco or learning about the Mattachine Society and the Daughters of Bilitis and trailblazers like Bayard Rustin and José Sarria we are left with a poorer understanding of the LGBTQ+ community.
Erasing the history of the LGBTQ+ (or any minority) community is quite insidious. It makes it harder for the larger population to accept you because without a history there is no point of reference, no legacy, no lessons learned – in short no progress. So it is important for the LGBTQ+ community to know and share their history. It helps the next generation realize they are not alone, kills the isolation that drives people into the closet and hopefully changes the perception of others who don’t identify or know of people in the LGBTQ+ community.
Check out Equal which is available today, October 22nd, on HBO Max.
This week I thought I’d suggest taking a hike. Boston Magazine has set up a great web page that lists more than 50 hiking paths throughout New England. The page includes an interactive map that lets you sort by difficulty level, driving time from Boston and even which hikes have “Instagram-worthy views”.
If you like to hike or are just looking for a good day trip suggestions this fall, you will want to bookmark Boston Magazine’s Amazing New England Hikes page.
I love podcasts. The format (when done correctly) is similar to story hour and the people over at Serial Productions are better at this than most. I’ve written about Serial in the past so when their latest podcast series, “Nice White Parents” was announced a couple of weeks ago I was interested.
This latest production looks at the 60-year relationship between white parents and the public school down the block — in this case in Brooklyn. The podcast asks why after decades of school reform, do so many inequities still exist? Reporter, Chana Joffe-Walt, looked at inequality in education and deduced that most reforms focused on who schools were failing: Black and brown kids, but rarely addressed who the schools are serving. The five-part series, focuses on what is arguably the most powerful force in our schools, white parents.
Boston Spirit Magazine has teamed up with Randy Price, who was the country’s first openly gay TV news anchor, to provide a quick weekly update about news impacting the LGBT community in New England over the past week.
New England has been enjoying a beautiful stretch of weather and the forecast for this weekend appears as if it will continue the streak of sunny skies and warm temperatures so (of course) I have the weekend on the brain.
Do you have any plans this weekend? How do you plan to recharge and make the most of this bizarre – socially distant – summer?
Although my blog’s focus is on LGBTQ life in Boston and Provincetown and is filled with visuals – specifically of the handsome male variety, I can’t help but pause momentarily to check-in and ask, “How are you doing?”
I ask in part because I’ve been struggling and not finding much of a respite. Pressures from work compounded by a pandemic, a steady stream of videos of police brutality, and belligerent posturing from our Divider-in-Chief has taken a toll on me and my usually cheery disposition. I figured if someone who looks like me and has led a fairly charmed life thus far is having a rough go, it’s hard to imagine the mental frame of mind for marginalized communities, those who are alone, without a strong support system or have a history of struggling with emotions and feelings of depression and anxiety.
I’d encourage everyone to reach out to friends and family to talk and check-in. In reaching out, I’ve found out that several close connections are struggling. In this age of group Zoom chats, texts and social media posting, it is good to remember that a one-on-one phone conversation can be both healing and helpful so to borrow a line from this 80s AT&T commercial, reach out and touch someone.
For anyone feeling alone or isolated, remember there are a lot of really wonderful people out there and organizations like the Samaritans with trained volunteers standing by should you want to talk but feel like you have nobody to turn to at this time.
This past weekend I asked Sergio to cut my hair – a first in our 21 year+ relationship. I will admit I was nervous about asking him to give me a trim but my last haircut had been in mid March and after 8+ weeks I was overdue to put it mildly. I tweeted out the middle photo (below) on Sunday, which resulted in a lot of likes and more than a few comments asking to see an after photo so I wanted to share Sergio’s good work. I feel like a million bucks.
I still can’t get over the barely there facial hair after 8 weeks of no shaving! So glad it is gone and that little experiment is finally done. While I love facial hair on other guys, I’m just not genetically wired to grow it. Below are a are a couple of photos from Sergio trimming my hair this weekend. Thank you Sergio!
Due in large part to Trump’s failure to lead, there has been a run on items like hand sanitizers and some are hoarding items like paper towels and toilet paper. Take 1-minute (well really 1:20) to listen to Judy Woodruff who closed the Friday night News Hour with a far more sane response than I’ve heard come from our President and a far more compassionate response that I hope will appeal to your better senses. Perhaps the White House can take cues from Judy and others in the media who have provided similar messages to help bring the nation together.
"This is a moment for Americans to show our best qualities."
Our friend, Tiago, is visiting from Brazil. His one ask was for us to show him snow so we took him to Gunstock Mountain to go snow tubing. It proved to be much more fun than I expected and would be fun to do again. After hitting the slopes, I introduced Sergio and Tiago to the concept of après ski.
Below is a video of our first run; I’m up front losing my mind and convinced I will fly off the tube; Sergio is holding our tubes so we can go down together; and Tiago is taping the run and shouting in Portuguese.
ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about Adam and Andy and purchase a copy of “the definitive collection of Adam and Andy” by visiting, adamandandy.com.
If you’ve lived in Boston for a while you may recognize / remember the drag troupe, Fresh Fruit. It appears the the group has been reborn and is bringinng a new show to Club Cafe starting this Friday with shows on Saturdays and Sunday (matinee shows) through November 23rd. Some of their shows have already sold out so don’t delay and get tickets while tehy last.
Lauded for their razor sharp wit and take no prisoner’s approach to political, religious, and social institutions, these Queens are ready to hit the stage at Club Café. If you loved Fresh Fruit before (or Bitter Bitch’s Golden Girls or Menopausal Mermaid), you won’t want to miss out on this hilarious song parody send up of everything you may think, but never say.
For a taste of what you might expect at the Club Cafe show, here is a video from Fresh Fruit back in the day.
It is Independence day in the USA and while I feel like our reputation has taken a hit in recent years (a self-inflicted hit at that), there is still plenty to be proud of and to celebrate so for everyone in the US and to those living abroad; have a wonderful July 4th.
I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at email@example.com.