Category Archives: Family

Happy birthday Sergio

Unfortunately Sergio and I cannot be together today to celebrate his birthday. According to Google we are about 6,500 miles apart.  To make sure he knows I’m thinking of him, I’ve decided to use my blog to wish him a very happy birthday. I look forward to another year of adventure and fun-filled moments and look forward to seeing him later this week when we are both back home.

Flowers from Sergio

relationship, winston flowersNext week will mark a milestone anniversary with Sergio. Unfortunately we will not be together, but yesterday Sergio surprised me by sending flowers to mark the week we actually met at the former gay bar ManRay / Campus in Cambridge.

Shortly after our first date, I surprised Sergio, sending yellow long stem roses to his place of work. Yesterday, he returned the surprise, sending this massive arrangement.  I have to give him credit; twenty years in and he can still surprise and make me feel very special. I hope everyone can have a few special, surprise moments like this in 2019.

Thank you Sergio for the past twenty years. I look forward to another twenty.

Hanging with Seth Meyers

family, mom, dadMy parents spent most of their lives either working or taking care of their four children. Since retirement that has all changed. In some ways their lives more closely mirror the life Sergio and I lead – meeting up and going out or planning fun trips with friends regularly.

Seth Meyers and his younger (and every bit as funny) brother Josh Meyers grew up in our small town. Together they logged more than a few hours in the backseat of my Mom’s station wagon being brought back from school or team practices so when my parents planned a quick trip to NYC last week with two other couples, they stopped in to check out Late Night with Seth Meyers.

Two things strike me about this photo – first, my mother who is 5’7″ looks tiny and second, my parents are way cooler.

Family values

Detention center in McAllen, Texas. Photo: Center for Border Protection

Since the 1980s, the Republican Party has often referred to themselves as the party of “family values”, but over the past several years and more recently under the Trump Administration this has turned into a bad joke. Aside from the daily drama of his war of words with [Insert Person of the Day] or weekly scandals, the news over Father’s Day weekend, showing US agents forcibly separating small children from their parents was enough to make me ill.

I know that there are many people who disagreed with President Obama and disliked his politics and perhaps they felt then as I do now – embarrassed, ashamed and alarmed. I think the thing that bothers me the most about this policy isn’t that our xenophobic / race-baiting President implemented this policy (it isn’t that surprising when you look back at his rhetoric), but what really upsets me is watching nearly the entire Republican Party ferociously defend the policy; some quoting excerpts from the Bible as justification.


Happy Father’s Day

I wanted to take a moment to say Happy Father’s Day to my Dad (shown above), my brother, Timothy, brother-in-laws, Travis and Brett as well as to all the other fantastic fathers out there who I know.

It doesn’t seem right that Dad’s only get one day out of the year to be recognized for all they do for their children but apparently that is all that Hallmark allows so have a wonderful day, spending it as you wish. And for all of you sons and daughters out there be sure to call Dad.

Happy mother’s day

Mother's Day

Mom chillin’ on Lake Winnipesaukee in 2015

I wanted to take a moment to say Happy Mother’s Day to my Mom, my two sisters Elizabeth and Susan, my sister-in-law Ashley and to all the other wonderful women I know who have taken on the toughest job I can think of, motherhood. It doesn’t seem right that you only get one day out of the year to be recognized for all you do for your children.

Goodbye 2016

2017, New YearA lot has been said about how crappy 2016 was and how many are looking forward to putting this year behind us, but upon further reflection I realized that despite some high profile losses – chief among them for me Prince & George Michael and other horrible events in the world – I’ve had a wonderful year.

I’m thankful for the time spent with my family and friends, the new friends Sergio and I made along the way this year and some really wonderful events / happenings including but not limited to the following:


Caitlin was born on July 26 and Summer was born on March 18

I’m an uncle six times over now that I have Summer and Caitlin in my life. Although Caitlin (above left) is as big – if not bigger, Summer (above right) is actually four months older.  The photo was taken this fall when  Caitlin was about 4 months old and Summer was 8 months old.

Father, family

Mom and Dad both celebrated milestone birthdays in good health

My parents celebrated really big birthdays with friends and family this year. They both remain in good health and with their new home in Portsmouth, NH I hope I will be able to see more of them in 2017.

Sintra, Portugal

We had a blast visiting Portugal. Here we are in Sintra – an easy day trip from Lisbon.

Sergio and I took two international trips this year, visiting Portugal for the first time this past September (FYI – we loved it) and returning to family in Brazil in November / December. In addition to those trips I was able to visit friends in the following cities: Austin, TX in March; San Francisco and New York City. Sergio and I also escaped what turned out to be an incredibly mild winter by spending several days in San Juan, P.R. in February.

There is more to be thankful for as well including my aunt’s fight with cancer, a new job for my brother-in-law, a growing business for my other brother-in-law, we met several special people this year who we are lucky to have as friends and lest I forget, while I’m sad to see Obama leave office he concluded his 8 years in office in 2016 with a level of class and grace that I think will be left wanting in the years to come.

I wish and hope everyone has as wonderful a 2017 as Sergio and I had in 2016.