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Guy candy

Since Halloween is just around the corner I figured I’d provide some guy candy to spruce up my site. I wonder if he’s really Brasilian or if that just happened to be the bathing suit he was given. He looks like some of the guys you’d see on Ipanema Beach in Rio.

Why I’m a Democrat

Sometimes friends and family are surprised by my support for the Democratic Party and more specifically the Liberal base of that party, but my political views were shaped in the 80s and 90s when I was coming to grips with both my sexuality and the politics of that time.

In the mid- to late-80s I could not understand why President Ronald Reagan sat idly by while tens of thousands of quilts were being sewn in memory of those who died from AIDS. In the 90s the Christian Coalition reached the heights of its influence in the Republican Party and with leaders like Speaker Gingrich they drove through discriminatory legislation like Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell all while funding local initiatives to limit and deny gay men and women basic rights such as adoption, hospital visitation rights, etc…

No longer a kid and no longer apologizing for my sexual orientation, my disdain for the Republican Party started to turn to rage when in the 2000 Presidential election Bush returned campaign donations to The Log Cabin Republicans (a GLBT Republican group) and several high profile gay donors, because they were gay and then was applauded by the entire leadership of the Republican Party.

Obama’s win knocked the wind out of the Republican Party. But now the party is back and will likely take control of one or both of the houses in the U.S. Congress. Unfortunately, this isn’t the result of the Party moving to the center or becoming more inclusive. This comes from what I describe as an unholy alliance with the newly, rebranded Christian Conservative now called The Tea Party.

So discussions about taxes, economics, foreign or domestic policy aside – until the Republican Party defends GLBT rights and calls out the homophobic slurs their supporters seem content to regularly hurl at me and people like me, I will not consider any other alternative when I enter a voting booth. To the rest of the US who seem to be readily accepted and have representation in both parties – I say lucky you, but think of me when you’re voting because who you elect impacts me too.

Update – 10/5/2010
Earlier this month, GOP Senate leader, Tom DeMint’s told attendees at a rally that had significant media coverage he would work to deny gays the right to be in certain professions, such as teaching school.

No wonder I feel like I’m at war with this party? Insert the word Jewish, Black, Latino in place of the word “gays” and the Republican party would be distancing themselves. Sadly this is just the latest in an onslaught of weekly garbage I have to listen to. Is it any wonder gay kids are being bullied or feeling isolated. Look what the “adults” of this country are saying with impunity and often times to the cheers of thousands. You can read the full story here.


I was reviewing my recent posts and realized that there’s been a lot of venting. I’ve either been lamenting being ill, hurt or commenting on various politically-charged themes.

I want to lighten this up a bit so I’ve added some guy candy to brighten my day and to bring smiles to those nice enough to stop by my site. Thank you again for your comments and checking out my little corner of the internet.

MI Asst A.G. bullying gay student

Did you know that for 6 months, Andrew Shirvell, assistant attorney general for the state of Michigan, has waged an online bullying campaign against college student Chris Armstrong, an openly gay student assembly president at U Michigan in Ann Arbor? I didn’t and I want to spread the word… I hope you will too.

CNN broadcaster, Anderson Cooper, had Shirvell on his show earlier this week and last night Cooper invited Shirvell’s boss, Michigan Attorney General Cox (a man with a history of turning a deaf ear to GLBT issues), to his show to ask why he has allowed such aggressive behavior from his assistant. Needless to say, the story is both bizarre and frightening. There’s a lot on the internet about this story – Queerty has a good posting you can read here.

I was going to read Shirvell’s blog today, but after his appearance on CNN he blocked his site. I was student council president when I was in college, and I can’t imagine what I would have done if someone did the same thing to me. I found Shirvell’s office number and have decided to post it – his work telephone no. is (517) 373-4875.

Additionally, his boss, MI AG Mike Cox office e-mail is miag@michigan.gov. I’m going to send an e-mail to Mr. Cox for what its worth. The main number for the A.G.s office in Lansing, MI is (517) 373-1110

10/1/10 UPDATE
Boy Culture Blog has posted that Michigan A.G. Mike Cox has clarified reports that Andrew Shirvell has been suspended — Note that he has not – Shirvell has taken a voluntary, paid leave of absence following months of harassing U of M student body president Chris Armstrong, whose homosexuality Shirvell literally views as a sign the younger man is ‘Satan’s emissary’.

To this I say WTF? So now Shirvell can spend 24/7 fixating on terrorizing this kid? And why shouldn’t he? No disciplinary actions are underway; he’s still receiving pay and benefits. Are you kidding me Michigan?

Rick Santorum’s problem with Google

Stephanie Mencimer’s article on MotherJones.com “Rick Santorum’s Anal Sex Problem” was forward to me by my friend Tom who also dislikes the ultra-conservative former U.S. Senator from PA. Although Santorum is the darling of conservatives and may have eyes on a Presidential run in 2012 the article explains that he has a bit of a Google issue.

When you Google Rick Santorum, top search results consistently list SpreadingSantorum.com (FYI – not cool to check out if at work). The site explains that Santorum’s last name is a sexual neologism for “the frothy mixture of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex.”

Apparently Dan Savage launched this site a few years ago and has not updated it recently but Google (and Bing I’ve just discovered) list SpreadingSantorum.com as one of the top 3 sites.

I know its petty, but I’d like to ask bloggers to encourage their readers to look up Rick Santorum on both Google and Bing and click the appropriate link to keep the embarassing link high in the rankings… Who knows, perhaps I’ll even add it as a link to my own site as my way of saying F.U. to the man who’s made a career out of homophobic and hateful speech against the GLBT community.

Summer 2010

Labor Day marks the end of the summer season in the U.S. Hopefully warm weather will remain for a bit longer but for all intents and purposes, the summer of 2010 (which was truly spectacular) is now a thing of the past. I’ve included a few pictures from each month as a sort of homage to the season.

June – Boston Pride
Motley’s window display for pride was both creative and funny. FYI, that is the 80s Cosmo Centerfold of MA Senator, Scott Brown.

The block party as usual was the best part of Boston Pride.

Proud window dressing on Tremont Street.

More images from Boston Pride can be viewed here.

July – Week of the 4th in Provincetown
My photo with David and Sean after they legally wed in Provincetown.

Two guys showing off their patriotism on Commercial Street.

Temperatures in the 90s kept people hovering by the pool at the Boatslip.

For more photos from 4th of July week, link here.

August – Carnival in Provincetown
Tea Dance was packed all week long at the Boatslip.

Another float filled with sexy men flirting with the crowd.

Revelers enjoying the parade and shouting their approval to those sexy men.

More photos from Carnaval in Provincetown can be viewed here.

Provincetown 2010 Carnival Photos

More pictures from the Provincetown Carnival celebration this past Thursday. The theme this year was Jungle Fantasy and most of the fun happened leading up to the parade with half the town getting dressed up, walking around and posing. I only have a few photos of the actual parade because the streets were so full I opted to duck into the Boatslip to get a tastey beverage, but you’ll get a definite flavor for the celebration.

Click to play this Smilebox slideshow

Carnival in Provincetown

Yesterday, Thursday, was the carnival parade. I will include many more photographs next week after I return home but here are a couple of images to share. For those unfamiliar with Carnival in Provincetown, I would describe it as the town’s version of Pride. As with all things that happen in Ptown – it is over the top and incredibly fun.

Grand marshalls, Margaret Cho and Bruce Villanch

Local celebs, the Hat Sisters

The crowd along Commercial Street

More images to follow next week…

Sunday’s guilty pleasure: Cazwell

Massachusetts native, Cazwell, is getting a lot of attention with gay bloggers. His video “Meet me at the ice cream truck” received more than 600,000 hits in its first 7-days. And with nearly every gay blogger posting the YouTube clip, the number of views will certainly continue to climb quickly. You can watch or download the video by linking here.

BTW – Should anyone be looking for me, I’ll be out by the ice cream truck looking for Cazwell and his crew.

Creative protester


Pictures really can tell a story, and when I stumbled across this photo posted on the Life and Times of a Gay Guy blog, I could not help but post it. According to the blog, the photo orginated here on Facebook.

Generally I don’t post pictures with curses, but this kid’s response to the homophobic protester next to him seems both reasonable and accurate.

Comments anyone?

Why homosexuality should be banned


I’ve posted this video before but in light of yesterday’s ruling by Federal Judge Vaughn Walker to strike down California’s odious Prop 8, I thought I would post this again. Enjoy the 2-minute clip and pass it along.

Traditional marriage includes…

Marriage has had a checkered past in the U.S. The arguments for many of the restrictions placed on marriage are made to sound altruistic but the truth is attempts to limit groups from marrying has always been a subversive way to isolate and discriminate. I stumbled upon this image (see below) from the Murmurs of Desire blog.

What a frightening past for an institution that is suppose to be about love and loving others.

DOMA Act declared unconstitutional by federal judge in Massachusetts

On Thursday, a US district court judge in Boston declared unconstitutional a 1996 law that bars federal recognition of same-sex marriage.  Judge Joseph L. Tauro, ruling in two separate challenges to the Defense of Marriage Act, declared that the law “induces the Commonwealth to violate the equal protection rights of its citizens’’ and “plainly intrudes on a core area of state sovereignty, the ability to define the marital status of its citizens.’’

You can read the full article in today’s Boston Globe by linking here.

Castro Mannequin

This was one of the pictures I took when I was in S.F. last month.  I could not resist snapping this picture and meant to share it upon returning because it made me laugh when I saw it.

Ptown chronicles

I’ve arrived back in Boston after spending the past four nights in Provincetown for the holiday weekend.  Since leaving, I’ve participated in my first gay wedding, finally developed an enviable tan, and made a few friends.

Fourth of July is one of the busiest weeks to visit Provincetown and having just returned I can understand why — it was so much fun.  My long weekend really started on Thursday, July 1st when Sergio and I showed up to the Tea Dance at The Boatslip.  I was able to introduce Sergio to David and Sean (the couple I wrote about in my entry, Happily ever after).  The happy couple was nervous (but excited) about their pending nuptials which would take place at the Episcopal Church in the East End on Friday.  With their permission, I’ve posted a quick two minute video of some of the highlights of the ceremony. 

Not long after their ceremony concluded Sean and David had to catch the Ptown ferry back to Boston. However, we were able to grab a quick bite then have one last cocktail at the Crown & Anchor. It was sad to say good bye after sharing such an intensely personal moment, but I do hope to stay in touch.  By the time it came to say good-bye, I was referring to them as friends – not a couple I had just met.

The happy newlyweds (and me) post wedding jitters:

While that may have been the climax – the remainder of the weekend was hardly anti-climactic.  Friday through Sunday Sergio and I spent our days on the Boatslip’s deck relaxing in the sun.  One afternoon we were invited to a pre-Tea party by a couple that we met through David and Sean who happen to live down the street from us (small world, huh?)  Shoud you be reading this – thank you Buddy and Patrick for your delicious punch cocktail and your hospitality.

We also checked out Varla Jean Merman’s show, The Loose Chanteuse, which was hilarious and a nice break from the bar scene. In addition to enjoying the show we were seated next to two handsome guys visiting from NYC, Dome and Tarek.  Dome (the one in the red suit) had never been to Provincetown and like a good friend, Tarek convinced him to spend the 4th of July here.  Lucky for us that we met them at the Varla show.  The next morning we ended up sitting together at the Boatslip.

Dome has mentioned that he may be coming to Boston for schooling so we may get a chance to meet and woo him to my hometown.  It would be great to see these guys again they are handsome, friendly and articulate; that’s a hat trick of desireable characteristics.

To capture some of the fun we had and show the fire works which brought nearly everyone from Cape Cod (or so it seemed) to Provincetown on July 4th, I’ve pulled together a roughly edited video.  Sorry its not of better quality, but I am merely a novice and still learning.