Category Archives: Friends

Fifteen years later, my September 11th tribute post to Graham

911, September 11thFor as long as I’ve had this blog I’ve paid tribute to my friend, Graham Berkeley, who was on the United Airlines Flight 175, which crashed into New York’s World Trade Center towers on September 11, 2001.  The 15 years that have passed since his tragic death account for more time than we were friends, but he remains present in my heart and is someone I think of whenever I visit Provincetown or hear Whitney Houston and sadly every September for far less happy reasons.

Taken too soon and still missed today, Americans will mourn an attack on the nation that is for most fodder for political debate and indignation; especially this year with a Presidential election pending.  For me the 11th of September is always about giving thanks that my partner was not working the United Airlines flight and about the days that followed, which included the unfortunate task of packing Graham’s belongings and shipping them to his parents in the U.K.

In loving memory of Graham.

Meeting poeple in Boston through LGBT social groups

Manhunt Pool Party MenLast year at this time I shared a post featuring different LGBT groups  you can join as a way to get out and meet people. I wanted to share the links again to encourage anyone looking to meet people or simply get out of the house.

Boston Gay Men’s Chorus is one of New England’s largest and most successful community-based choruses.  Auditions are Sunday, September 11th.

Boston Gay Men’s Books Club is monthly book club on MeetUp featuring literature by and about gay men. This month’s book is Insignificant Others by Stephen McCauley. They will meet on Monday, September 19 at 7PM at Trident Booksellers on Newbury Street in Back Bay.

Dignity Boston is a progressive, inclusive community of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Catholics and their allies. All are invited for liturgy and social every Sunday at 5:00 PM, St. Stephen’s at 419 Shawmut Avenue, Boston. 

Fellows by TWC is a group of 30+ singles who meet the third Wednesday of each month for cocktails and conversation (next meeting is Sept. 21 – register to receive updates via email for their monthly socials).

Fenway Health has been working to make life healthier for the LGBT community for more than 40 years; the Fenway and AAC are always looking for volunteers.

Gay Beer Club is a Boston based organization that produces events and gatherings for members of the gay community.

Gay For Good mobilizes the LGBT community to interact with the greater community by volunteering their time with different monthly activities.

Gays for Patsy is a country western dancing club that holds events each month. Beginners are encouraged to join.

Keshet Boston is a grassroots organization working for the full inclusion of LGBT Jews in Jewish life, offering community events for LGBT Jews in Greater Boston.

New England Gay Men Camping is a social outdoor adventure group for gay men. They will be camping at Harold Parker State Forest in Andover, MA Friday, September 16. 

Opus Affair is probably best known for their monthly cocktail party hosted at local restaurants  to raise money for local arts organizations. Next cocktail party is Monday, September 19th (at a personal favorite spot) SRV in the South End.

The Welcoming Committee is a young, social group who organize activities to broadening the spectrum of gay life here in Boston and beyond.

Apologies if I have overlooked any area gay organizations in the area.  Feel free to add information for any such group in the comments section of my blog.

Scruffy Sunday

man in bedWho wants to be the one to wake this guy up?

Previous Scruffy Sunday Posts

Enjoy a cup of coffee with a friend today

friendship, friends


I force people to have coffee with me, just because I don’t trust that a friendship can be maintained without any other senses besides a computer or cellphone screen. – John Cusack

Throwback Thursday

BosGuy, TBT, Throwback ThursdayBack in the early and mid-90s I called Atlanta home. It was a wonderful time to be there, and I have many fond memories of that time. This photo was actually from one of the many trips we would make to what I fondly refer to as The Redneck Riviera, better known to most as Destin, FL.

Lesbians in the attic by local author Stephen Syta

Lesbians in the attic by Stephen SytaOur friend, Stephen Syta, has published his first book called Lesbians In The Attic. The book is an outrageous autobiography about his mad life, crazy family, and perpetually insane friends. Strung around a holiday gathering, featuring several key players, this laugh-out-loud tale paints character vignettes that are wicked, fond and unforgettable.

Lesbians in the attic is currently available to Amazon Kindle readers, here.

Off to Austin, Texas

Work will bring me to Texas next week so I decided to use the opportunity to fly out later this week to visit a good friend who lives in Austin before I have to go to Dallas. Unfortunately, Sergio won’t be able to join me while I am visiting Laura and Brian, but I will be joining a former college roommate and friend who will also be in Austin visiting at the same time.

Brian Northridge, Laura Northridge, Friends

October 2009 – Austin, Texas

I’ve visited Austin, TX a handful of times since that first visit in October 2009 and always have fun.  The tiny city has grown significantly in the seven years since I first visited but it retains a quirky charm that distinguishes itself from the rest of the state.  The city’s obsession with large cows which are the University of Texas mascot is puzzling but they can make for fun pieces of public art. Austin TexasWhenever I visit Austin, I stay with my friends in a leafy neighborhood of Austin called Westlake that is really just a well situated suburb. I’m sure we will get out for a night or two but most of our time will be spent relaxing at my friend’s beautiful home; maybe poolside if it is warm enough.