Weekend in San Francisco

Rob and SergioThis past weekend Sergio and I went to San Francisco to see a friend I’ve known since childhood get married. It had been about ten years since Sergio had last visited so we played the role of tourist, walking all over and visiting places like Noe Valley, The Castro, North Beach, SoMa, The Embarcadero and more.

We stayed at The Adagio Hotel on Geary Street just a few blocks from Union Square. The boutique-style hotel fit our needs perfectly, but it was upsetting to see how many homeless have settled in downtown. There are still many beautiful parts of the city but it was still unsettling and made me wonder what the city can do to reverse this trend and help these people get back on their feet.

It was great being a tourist with Sergio (I took my first trolley ride) and to connect with friends in San Francisco but it was Jeff and Ritch’s wedding that brought us to San Francisco. The weather on Saturday could not have been better for their ceremony, which took place on a ship called “The Merlot”. Jeff and Ritch exchanged vows under the Bay Bridge with the skyline as a backdrop and after photos were taken as the sun set behind the Golden Gate Bridge.

The sky was incredibly clear and unseasonably warm, making it incredibly picturesque and providing Sergio and I with some amazing views. I’ve shared a few of my favorite photos from the evening below. Despite the city’s ongoing issues with providing affordable homes and caring for those who seem unable to care for themselves, San Francisco remains one of my favorite cities to visit.

Bay Bridge, San Francisco

Temptation Tuesday

handsome, hunk, muscles, shirtless manThe gay in me cannot get over the fact that I really do not care for the fabric on this chair. I think it is safe to say that I’m missing the entire point of this post.

Past Temptation Tuesday Posts

Men in kilts

mates leather weekend

This week’s post is for everyone who went to Provincetown for Mates Leather Weekend which is finishing up today. More information about this annual weekend can be found here, matesleatherweekend.com.

Previous Men in Kilts Posts

What to do this week: October 7 – 13

white, handsome, hunk, muscular guyWith a list of 50+ events and activities this week there is a little bit of something for everyone. I’d like to give a shout out to a few new programs like John Waters LIVE  at the PEM, a forum hosted by the ICA on Racism, public health and contemporary art and New England chocolate festival.

Additionally, there are quite a few festivals and celebrations this weekend including the PTown Soccer Classic XXIIIOgunquit Bear Fest Weekend and Melanin Pride Festival taking place in Boston.

MONDAY – THURSDAY

Drag Bingo is every Monday starting at 7PM free to play at Club Cafe in Boston

Queers with Beers will be meeting again this Monday starting at 7PM at Aeronaut Brewing Company in Somerville

UK RuPaul Drag Race did you miss last Thursday’s premiere – no worries The Alley replays the show on Monday starting at 7PM in DTX

No Filter is this Monday upstairs with a kooky theme at Jacques where anything goes 10PM-12AM in Boston

All Star Mondays is a weekly drag show with performances at 11:30PM and 12:30AM at Machine in Boston

Boston Drag Gauntlet: Snatch Game starting at 7:30PM on Tuesday at Jacques join contestants for the next drag gauntlet as contestants have to put together their best “celebrity” impersonation, as we play The Snatch Game!

Trivia Tuesday is every Tuesday at the Dorchester Brewing Company and starts at 7:30PM in Dorchester

Dirty Water Saloon Line Dancing for Queers & friends has country-western two-step, west coast swing and line dancing each Tuesday from 7-10PM (all are welcome) at the Milky Way Lounge in JP

Showtune Tuesday hosted by VJ Ryan Grow starts at 9PM every Tuesday at dbar in Dorchester

Karaoke Night starts at 10PM every Tuesday at Jacques in Boston

Stump Trivia with Jonathan Brett is guaranteed fun and has lots of prizes (trivia starts at 8PM) hosted every Tuesday at Club Cafe in Boston

John Waters LIVE  the ‘Pope of Trash’ is coming to Salem’s Peabody Essex Museum (PEM) this Wednesday from 7:30-11PM (tix req’d) in Salem

Atomic Karaoke with DJ Stevie Psyclone & Jonathan Brett is every Wednesday at Club Cafe in Boston

Trivia Night comes to Cathedral Station every Wednesday from 8-10PM

Free Pool is available all evening at Cathedral Station every Thursday

Queer Boston Board Gamers is meeting Thursday from 6-9PM at the Cambridge Center Foyer in Kendall Square

MOVIE: What Ever Happened to Baby Jane? watch this classic film at the Somerville Theater with your host Coleslaw on Thursday starting at 6:30PM 

Poetry Reading Marry your love of books & booze listening to poets Matt W Miller & Jennifer Sperry Steinorth read their work on Thursday at Estragon in the South End starting at 7PM

Racism, public health and contemporary art the ICA Boston is hosting a forum on Thursday starting at 7PM – tickets are required but free to reserve 

UK RPDR Viewing Parties are at The Alley Bar, Blend, and Club Cafe  each Thursday in Boston

Bear Trivia Night is at 8PM every Thursday at The Alley Bar in DTX Boston

GAME 6: Patriots vs Jets will be showing at Cathedral Station on Thursday – game time is 8:15PM

Karaoke Thursdays is every Thursday at Machine with your hosts Rob Botelho and Emphysema Menthol 100s in Boston

#Yaasss Thursdays with hosts Penny Tentiary, Yune Neptune, and resident DJ Begbick plays the area’s best hip hop and top 40 at Club Cafe

handsome, hunk, men in bed, yellowTHE WEEKEND

PTown Soccer Classic XXIII starts on Friday in Provincetown – for more information including events and game times click on the link provided

Ogunquit Bear Fest Weekend starts on Friday in Ogunquit click on the link for more details about all the parties and programming

Melanin Pride Festival is a renaissance in celebration and recognition of LGBTQ+, non-binary people of color in film and the arts click the link to learn more about all the associated events that will occur this weekend

Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders in Somerville

Fresh Fruit is Born Again (Opening Night) Lauded for their razor sharp wit and take no prisoner’s approach to political, religious, and social institutions, these Queens are ready to hit the stage at Club Café on Friday and will be performing Saturdays and Sundays through November 23rd in Boston

The Beyonce Experience is at the Museum of Science Planetarium starting at 8:30PM on Friday in Boston – a must for all Beyonce fans

Casual Fridays is a weekly dance party with no cover featuring DJ Begbick at the Alley Bar in DTX

Serving Face is back at Jacques Underground on Friday with DJ char & Kirbie Fully Loaded in Bay Village

FUZZ this fun monthly, gay dance party returns to the Alley this Friday in DTX

Anthem Fridays is the weekly dance party hosted by DJ Stevie Psyclone (no cover before 11PM) at Club Cafe every Friday

New England chocolate festival discover some of the world’s best chocolate and confections, become a more conscious consumer, and meet farmers and makers this Saturday and Sunday at the Cyclorama in the South End

Queer Board Game Night starts at 6PM on Saturday evening at the Trident Booksellers & Cafe on Newbury Street in the Back Bay

Silver at BLEND takes place the second Saturday of every month – this is a dance party for mature audiences and the men who like them in Dorchester

MOBD Muscle Otter Bear Daddy is hosted the 2nd Saturday of the month downstairs at the Middle East in Central Square

Video Night Tracks every Saturday night join VJ Ryan Grow at Cathedral Station starting at 9:30PM

Grunt is a weekly dance party with no cover for burly men and their admirers, starting at 10PM at the Alley Bar in DTX

UNITE Saturday – it’s Stevie Psyclone’s birthday dance party at Club Cafe with DJ Susan Esthera (no cover before 11PM) in Boston

SoWa Open Market SoWa Open Market is now open every Sunday from 10AM – 4PM through the end of October in Boston

*SIP* 2 Year Anniversary is this Sunday starting at 6PM with a performance by Sham Payne, and raffles by The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for Sister Santa at Jacques in Bay Village

Sunday Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 6PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Naked Yoga for Men meets in the Boston area most Sundays at 6:30 PM (note that classes fill in advance and you must pre-register with the group)

Pitch Your Single Friend LGBTQ+ Night is this Sunday starting at 7PM at Aeronaut Brewery

Karaoke at the Alley is every Sunday starting at 8PM in Boston

Hot Mess Sundays is at Legacy this Sunday and will feature special guests BOB the Drag Queen and Jiggly Caliente starting at 10PM in Boston

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.

The Judy & Varla Show comes to the Calderwood

Judy Gold, Varla Jean Merman, gay bostonPrepare yourself for a night of laughter and vulgarity when Judy Gold and Varla Jean Merman step on stage with Gerald Goode at the piano for two shows on one night later this month. The show will include an unforgettable evening of music and stand-up when Judy & Varla come to the South End on Saturday, October 19th for two performances at 6PM and 9PM.

Sergio and I will be at the 9PM show. Tickets remain available for both performances but they will sell fast so tell your friends and make plans now.

Judy Gold & Varla Jean Merman – One Night Only!
Saturday, October 19th (at 6PM and 9PM)
at the Calderwood Pavilion, South End
click here for more info and to purchase tickets

Scruffy Sunday

I love this photo. I’m fairly certain I may have posted this previously but it is worth sharing again. This is how everyone should be able to wake up.

Previous Scruffy Sunday Posts

Saturday morning coffee

handsome, hunk, underwearBoy, I’d love to be their neighbors.

Saturday morning comics

ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about Adam and Andy and purchase a copy of “the definitive collection of Adam and Andy” by visiting, adamandandy.com.

Click on this week’s comic strip to enlarge

Click here if you would like to see  the previous Adam & Andy

Furry Friday

reading, book, hairy, handsome, hunk Looks like a nice way to pass a few days.

Past Furry Friday Posts

BosGuy brain teaser

riddle, exercise for your brain

Each Friday morning I post a riddle to get you to think outside the box and exercise your brain. If you are stumped, share it with a friend or colleague and see if you can figure out the answer together.

I’ll confirm answers in the afternoon so don’t worry if you don’t see your comment posted right away. I want to give everyone a chance to guess.

This week’s brain teaser:  What are the next three letters to follow this combination: OTTFFSS?

Like riddles? Check out past week’s brain teasers.

What to do this weekend

Gay men, Provincetown Mates Leather Weekend comes to Provincetown this weekend

Lots happening this week with Mates Leather Weekend taking place in Provincetown this weekend and shows in Boston by Martha Graham Cracker Cabaret at the Oberon, Bianca Del Rio at the Shubert and Cheyenne Jackson at the Emerson Colonial Majestic.

For those who love to be frightened, Halloween season officially kicks off in Salem with their Haunted Harbor at Salem Horror Fest. 

Mates Leather Weekend officially started on Thursday and runs through Sunday in Provincetown

Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders in Somerville

SoWa First Fridays is held the first Friday of each month from 5-9PM at 450 Harrison Avenue – peruse the galleries and individual artist studios

Haunted Harbor at Salem Horror Fest presents a trading post of terror in the heart of downtown Salem starting at 7PM on Friday

Bianca Del Rio is in town with her 2019 tour “It’s jester joke” at the Shubert Theatre on Friday in Boston

Martha Graham Cracker Cabaret hailed as “The Drag Queen King” by The Philadelphia Inquirer, performs new arrangements and mashups of songs on Friday at the Oberon in Cambridge

Cheyenne Jackson: The Seth Rudetsky Series is at the Emerson Colonial Majestic on Friday, starting at 8PM in Boston

The Beyonce Experience is at the Museum of Science Planetarium starting at 8:30PM on Friday in Boston – a must for all Beyonce fans

FASCINATION Friday is a monthly gear/ fetish/ kink night at Jacques this Friday in Boston

H E R O E S this monthly gay dance party plays 80s New Wave, post-punk and electro music at Sonia’s on Friday starting at 10PM in Central Square

Casual Fridays is a weekly dance party with no cover featuring DJ Begbick at the Alley Bar in DTX

Anthem Fridays is the weekly dance party hosted by DJ Stevie Psyclone (no cover before 11PM) at Club Cafe every Friday

Mayhem Saturdays bring your friends for a fun night out with great music and no cover at blend in Dorchester

Underbear hosted the first Saturday of each month with DJ Bruce Derfler is at The Alley bar, starting  at 9PM in DTX

2nd Annual Flannel Frenzy! Break out your best Flannel and Kilts and head over to dbar on Saturday night in Dorchester

Video Night Tracks every Saturday night join VJ Ryan Grow at Cathedral Station starting at 9:30PM

UNITE Saturdays is a weekly dance party at Club Cafe with DJ Susan Esthera (no cover before 11PM) in Boston

SoWa Open Market SoWa Open Market is now open every Sunday from 10AM – 4PM through the end of October in Boston

Retro  Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 6PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Naked Yoga for Men meets in the Boston area most Sundays at 6:30 PM (note that classes fill in advance and you must pre-register with the group)

Karaoke at the Alley is every Sunday starting at 8PM in Boston

Hot Mess Sundays at Candibar in the Theater District is every Sunday starting at 10PM in Boston

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.

American Airlines adds nonstop service Boston to London

flightright.com, flightrightEarlier this week American Airlines announced they will begin a nonstop service from Logan Airport to London Heathrow Airport. starting on March 29, 2020. The new daily flight will depart from Boston at 7:15 p.m. and arrive in London at 7:30 a.m. the following day on Boeing 777-200 airplanes.

Tickets for the route are available for purchase beginning starting on Monday, Oct. 7.  American Airlines joins an already crowded field of carriers who provide nonstop service between the two cities but with additional flights comes (hopefully) more affordable fares and better options for travelers.

Read more:
American Airlines will add nonstop service from Boston to London in 2020

Vintage gay

Bayard TaylorBayard Taylor (1824-1878) is credited with writing the first gay novel in America, titled,  Joseph and His Friend: A Story of Pennsylvania. We see George Henry Bocker (1829-1890) founder of Nassau Monthly and Bayard Taylor (1824-1878) sitting to the far left and in the middle respectively. It is believed that Taylor had a close relationship with George Henry Bocker.

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at bosguymail@gmail.com.

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

This week on Instagram: menandcoffee

shirtless handsome man, hunk, glassesI know that I’ve featured this account previously, but it has been quite a while since then and I think the handle on Instagram is worthy of getting periodic shout outs – although by the numbers of followers this account already has I’m willing to bet a number of you already follow this popular account.

I periodically pull photos from this feed for my popular weekly posts each weekend called Saturday Morning Coffee.

You can follow this account on Instagram here, instagram.com/menandcoffee.

Do you like this weekly post? Check out previously featured IG accounts here.

Caption this photo

humorHopefully the caption I’ve shared below inspires you to offer up a caption or two of your own. Leave a witty or funny caption as a comment for this post, and I’ll approve it for readers to enjoy.

“Cheers!”