Work is getting a little out of control as deadlines are hitting faster than a Lindsay Lohan / Paris Hilton smack down.  I do find some solace in the fact that my entire team is completely stretched so I don’t feel as if this is either just my imagination or I’m the only one struggling here.

I suppose it must be that time of the year.There is a lot that needs to get done and with the holidays sadly a thing of the past, life goes back to business as usual.  Fortunately, I lack hobbies, dislike most of what television is offering these days, and I do enjoy my work.  However, I can’t help but feel as if my desire to move forward has left me feeling a kinship with the saying in the photograph above… Am I alone here or is anyone else feeling the same way these days?

Brian’s birthday party in Austin

This past Friday I surprised a friend who now lives in Austin, TX, and as near as I can tell – he had no idea. As you may recall, I visited this couple back in October. I wrote about that trip and included some photos in my entry, Weekend in Austin.

The birthday weekend was filled with a lot of laughing, eating, drinking (and crashing from either too much eating or simple exhaustion).  Laura and Brian certainly pulled out all the stops, and I shudder to think how many empty beer and wine bottles are sitting at this moment in their recycle bin on the sidewalk.  No doubt the neighbors must be seriously considering an intervention.  However in their defense – there were a lot of us at the house. I’ve included a group photo from Saturday night after we gorged ourselves at a smokehouse / BBQ called the Salt Lick.

Brian, I’d like to wish you a year of good health and happiness, and Laura thank you for all your hard work – it was fantastic, despite some bone-chilling temperatures (check out the photo below to see what cities were actually warmer than Austin on Brian’s birthday).  Lastly to the friends from San Francisco, Houston and elsewhere it was a pleasure to meet you and I hope to see you again soon.

A Haiku for You

Casual encounters

a random meeting
the handsome smile is trouble
temptation abounds

This was a poem I wrote quite a long time ago which I found while reorganizing files on my PC.  Since I’ve been posting a bit of poetry lately, I thought I would include it.

Changing my diet (just a bit)

I’ve joined the masses with a renewed commitment to making my health a priority in 2010.  Age is playing a cruel joke on everything from my metabolism to my physique which makes staying in-shape even more of a challenge. I am trying to make sure I go to the gym regularly and modifying my diet slightly by abstaining from eating after 10pm and changing some of the products I buy.  For example, I just purchased Soy Milk (with no sugar), but I have to admit I’m afraid to try it in my Life cereal maybe I’ll muster the courage to try it tomorrow morning.
Recently the New York City Health Dept. made news with the commercial I’ve included below, which encourages people to skip the soda.  I’ve never liked soda much, but it got me to thinking about things I could easily modify in my diet (i.e. no need for a muffin every morning).  Who knows how long I’ll be able to maintain my “no muffin” policy, but if the scary no-sugar, soy milk turns out to be yummy and I can decrease the amount of processed sugars and preservatives I eat – I’m doing my body good, right?  I’m no nutritionist but it seems logical.

Nana’s poetry

My grandmother, “Nana” loved to write poetry, but I never realized this until I opened an e-mail from my mother with the poem below. It is dated February 29, 1988 and was written shortly after our family had visited our grandparents who were at that point spending each winter in sunny Florida.
According to my mother, Nana was always writing poems.  It is amazing to think how much she continues to touch my heart even though she is no longer here. 
Little Drummer Boy where did you go?
The tv is quiet don’t you know
You all left so quickly or so it seemed
We loved all you children to break the beam
Of quiet that’s here or so it seems
And quiet Robbie who is creating a story
And sweet dear Beth who’s doing her own thing
Susan like a record who goes round and round
Helps Tim tap with a rythmical sound.
It really was quiet on the following day
No kids to talk to and show them the way
to keep on loving us we hope and pray
As we love you all every day.

In 5-months I will be flying to Paris, France to celebrate my birthday for a quick 4-night vacation, and I can hardly wait.  My preference would be to stay in Le Marais, but I have not booked anything yet.
Le Marais is a centrally located Parisian neighborhood packed with fantastic restaurants and cafes and is easily accessible to the Notre Dame, Centre Pompidou and most of the gay night life in the city.  No doubt I will be looking online and reading what people have to say on TripAdvisor.com to try and figure out where I want to book my stay.  If you have any suggestions – please send me an e-mail here or through my profile on TripAdvisor

Until then I think I’ll just have to rent out Baz Lurmann’s Moulin Rouge a few more times… 

My 2010 resolutions

With only hours remaining until the start of 2010, I wanted to acknowledge my partner, family and friends and say thank you for making 2009 a wonderful year for me. I am excited to see what changes happen in the coming year and hope it is filled with health and happiness for me and those I love.  Although I’m making several resolutions to change certain behaviors, I thought I would also write down a few things about myself that I resolve not to change and promise to continue doing in 2010.
  1. I promise that I will continue to smile at strangers and say “hello” or “good morning” anytime I make eye contact with someone whether I know them or not. 

  2. I will not forget that opening a door for someone or saying “please” and “thank you” is something I was taught by my parents and makes me think of them every time I do it.

  3. I will value my personal relationships with family and friends but not to the exclusion of meeting new people and building new relationships.

Doing these things makes me feel better about myself.  Fortunately, these are also things that come naturally to me now and will require little in the way of “will power” unlike one of my more traditional resolutions (to stop biting my fingernails).  If you are making resolutions this evening, consider what things about yourself are worth preserving for 2010 and start the year celebrating what makes you special rather than what needs to change.

My 2009 retrospective

One of the reasons I started my blog was to record my thoughts and with the year drawing to a close I wanted to include a retrospective. This includes some of the places I’ve been fortunate enough to visit, interesting things that have happened and pictures from 2009.

Although there were no Broadway shows this year, I still managed to see all sorts of performances ranging from the funny Pam Ann who started her U.S. tour here in Boston to the beautiful performance from the Alvin Ailey Ballet. All told I believe I probably saw 6-8 plays and musicals (including a very bawdy drag show at the Sydney Opera House). Although its not quite Masterpiece Theater, here is my favorite video from YouTube in 2009.

I travelled a bit this year too. I started 2009 in a very snowy Provincetown with Dr. Sergio and his boyfriend at the time. The drive will be memorable if only because it took us 7 hours to drive through the blizzard to get there. I went back to Cape Cod three more times – Provincetown in May and July and Brewster in October for my cousin’s wedding. I also visited Ogunquit, ME staying with friends on both visits in July and October (for halloween).

I also hopped on a plane a few times in 2010 and visited three new destinations: Puerto Rico in late January, Austin, TX in October and Australia in November & December.

Changes in 2009
This year my cousin Bill passed away. His passing was relatively sudden which in hindsight was a blessing since he did not suffer much and he did live a full and happy life so even though I’ve thought of him often in recent months it has been mostly wistful memories rather than sad thoughts.

I was also sad to see my Senator, Ted Kennedy, pass this year. Many despised the man but I have nothing but admiration for him. I recall seeing him speak when he received the Gerry Studds award from Fenway Health in 2008. I miss having such a powerful voice in Washington, D.C. Truly the GLBT community was dealt a horrible blow when his voice was silenced. I think his leadership has been sorely missed in the Senate these past few months as Congress struggles to enact meaningful health reform and expand coverage.

Fortunately, this year has not been about missing those who have passed. A lot of excellent changes were welcomed into my life as well, but probably the highlight was the birth of my niece Abby Dion. She is quite adorable.

My parents built a second home up in the lakes region of New Hampshire and construction more or less finished in August. This was a dream they shared for quite some time and seeing them make this a reality is really wonderful. It also shows me that through a lot of hard work (and a bit of luck for sure) dreams no matter how large are attainable – and in this case it was a big dream. Mom & Dad’s Lake House

Other things of note
This is sort of my catch-all to comment on all sorts of things, and one thing that I need to record (although I’ve not forgotten) is that in January 2009 I celebrated my 10th anniversary with my partner. We both have strong wills, short fuses and a flair for the dramatic so if I were a casual observer waging on this relationship at the start, I’m not sure I would have bet it would have lasted beyond its first year – let alone an entire decade.

My other half had his parents join us for 3 weeks this summer and I was sorry to see them leave at the end of their stay.  I do feel a sense of guilt that my partner lives so far away from his family, but I feel this sense of separation with his parents is hardest of all so I do love having them with us and enjoy spending time in Brazil visiting.

Something else I wanted to comment upon and had previously posted is my cousin Matt’s book Lifeguard on Duty. This was his first book and it was a labor of love for sure. He is fast at work on his next project which I’m sure will be quite beautiful. 

Thank you for the memories 2009… I look forward to 2010.

Click to play this Smilebox photobook: 2009 retrospective

Christmas holiday with friends

Unlike many, I find the Christmas holiday very relaxing.  However, this year I did not know what to expect as we were hosting two houseguests (one of whom we had never met).  As it turned out it was one of the best holidays in recent memory due in part to the wonderful time we had with our houseguests. During their 4-night stay, we hosted our annual Christmas Eve dinner; spent Christmas day at my parent’s in New Hampshire; and joined a great dinner party on the 26th to celebrate Boxing Day. Spread over three evenings – Christmas cheer seemed to be in abundance.  Each night we were up late chatting and laughing at nothing in particular and each morning I enjoyed exploring my hometown with our guests… Why is it I only do this when people visit from out of town? 
On Sunday morning, I stood on my curb waving goodbye to Joanna and Alicia as they drove off, and walking back to our apartment both my partner and I were commenting on how sad we were to see them leave only to get a message on our home phone from a friend we had not seen in 3+ years.  She was visiting Boston from Rio de Janeiro and was hoping we were in town so we could connect. Hearing Priscilla’s soft Brasilian accent speaking through the answering machine was like receiving a late Christmas present – completely unexpected and appreciated all the more precisely for that reason.
Sunday turned out to be like an extension of the Christmas holiday and today waking up to go back to work I found myself more relaxed than I had expected (considering how late I’d been up each night) and extremely content.  I’m sure it is natural for people to think back at the close of each year and I’m no exception.  The past few days have made me realize three things which I already knew but perhaps had not thought much about lately.  1) Good friendships are not always easy to come by 2) If you really value them you’ll make the effort to stay in touch 3) Spending a special time of year (like Christmas) with friends really does bring you closer together and make the holiday memorable.

Hot Stuff

More videos from this show which was recorded on Friday, December 4th at the Sydney Opera House are available on the BosGuy YouTube Page. You can also double click on this image to make it larger for better viewing.

Boxing Day photos

The annual Boxing Day dinner party my friend hosts was fantastic.  This year there were a few more faces and it had a true internationl flair with our additional houseguests Joanna from Australia and Alicia from France joining the party.  I’ve included a photo album from last night’s festivities. If you have speakers, turn them on to enjoy the cheesy holiday music.

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Happy Boxing Day

I hope that everyone reading this has had a relaxing Christmas holiday whether this is a day of special meaning and tradition or not.  Tonight, I will be heading over to my friend’s house for her traditional Boxing Day dinner party.
However, before I dwell on today’s events, I wanted to say thank you to my other half for surprising me.  We’ve been together for nearly eleven years now and yesterday in his own awkward way he gathered my family around to let them know that he would be taking me to Paris for my birthday this spring. Although my birthday is not for another few months, in 2010 it will be a milestone birthday and he wanted to celebrate it someplace that he knew had special meaning for me.  Suffice it to say, I am very excited and the planning for this trip will go a long way to distract me from the cold weather this winter.

Our Christmas celebrations really started on Christmas Eve. We had a delicious dinner and friends started dropping by to visit around 9 pm.  The following day was also wonderful.  We spent the day up at my parent’s house in New Hampshire. Our two houseguests who arrived on Wednesday, December 23rd have added so much to our holiday celebrations this year and I was pleased that they had such a nice time with all my family.  Both are young women from other countries and with their own family traditions, but I think that everyone genuinely had a wonderful day.

Merry merry…

Have yourself a Merry Christmas… Enjoy the holidays.

Show Tune Tuesday

It is Tuesday…. which means that starting at 9pm videos of Broadway and off-Broadway (in some instances way off) will appear on screen at dbar in Dorchester. I’ll definitely be making an appearance next Tuesday, and I am contemplating a visit tonight just to get out and see people. Maybe I’ll request this song from Glee.

Jingle Bells – Tess Tickle

Sunday I woke to find Boston covered in a thick blanket of snow.  The city was absolutely picture perfect and despite my dislike of the cold, it definitely put me in the holiday spirit.  Considering its just a few days ’til Christmas, a holiday flavored posting seems in order.

I’ve included a clip from one of the numbers from Drag – Camp as Christmas – the drag show I saw at the Sydney Opera House. I only wish we were able to record the entire number from the fabulous drag queen, Tess Tickle. Check out how she holds on to her wig while she jing-jangles her way across the stage.