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This afternoon my grandmother passed away surrounded by her children at her home. It is never easy to say good bye to someone who you love, but her health has been in steady decline and the goal in recent months had been to make her as comfortable as possible.

I am one of the luckier grandchildren because my cousin AJ and I were the first two grandchildren on my mother’s side and for almost 4 decades my grandmother was a constant figure contributing her own verses to each chapter of my life.

I have mentioned my Grandmother in a couple of entries most recently in my entry “One more party with Nana” but also after an emotinal visit with her at the hospital last December, “Visit with Nana in the Hospital“. Time will pass but my grandmother (just like her husband) will always live in my heart and mind. Happy memories of time spent with them at the family home in Winchester and visits to their condo in FL will always be with me.

Cell phones for soldiers is a charity that recently caught my attention and I thought it was a great idea that I would make note of on my blog. Started in April 2004 by then 13 year old Brittany and her 12 year old brother Robbie in Norwell, MA, the program sends old or unused cell phones to members of the military serving in Iraq and around the world so they can talk to family members and loved ones.

This program is ingenious. It helps people who are far from family stay connected and it gives people an opportunity to recycle and reuse technology that would otherwise be discarded or unused. If you would like to learn more about the program or Brittany and her brother Robbie, link here ~ www.cellphonesforsoldiers.com.

I’ve mailed in my old cell phone and would encourage you to do the same.

Mayors Against Illegal Guns

There are few causes I have felt more marginalized by and passionate about then gun control. The overwhelming majority of Americans support the right to bear arms, but what that means exactly differs when you talk to people. The Nation’s leading gun lobby, NRA, does not like having intelligent discourse and looks at any efforts to regulate the sale of guns as an infringement on individual rights.

The NY Times had an article in today’s paper about a group called “Mayors Against Illegal Guns”. This group has used each of the Presidential Candidates own words from past speeches to create a bi-partisan effort to close “gun loopholes” and prevent the sale of guns to convicted criminals. Seems like a no brainer to everyone except the NRA and their most ardent supporters. Take a look at the clever advertisement.

Be all that you can be

I am a fairly organized individual and at work I have always been able to manage my time very effectively, but when it comes to applying that same level of discipline in my personal life I feel like I fail miserably.

I am pretty good about making sure that my house is tidy and errands are done, but anything beyond clearing clutter, doing the wash and filling my refrigerator seems to be beyond me; despite having loads of spare time and virtually no responsibilities (as compared to my parents at my age).

Lately I’ve been frustrated by my on-again / off-again commitment with the gym and my complete failure to set aside time to study Portuguese. Both activities are important goals that I have repeatedly set for myself. I know if these were activities that were core to my job I would have a six pack and be bilingual but applying that same discipline in my personal life is a real challenge for me. I also realize that these struggles are not unique to me but it does not make me feel better or help motivate me to know that there is a country of underachievers and excuse makers. I would love to have someone invent a motivational pill that would help me “be all that I can be” to borrow a slogan from the U.S. military.

Apple’s coming out party in Boston and the ever evolving Boylston Street

Thursday, May 15th Apple will open their largest retail store in the United States at 815 Boylston Street (across from the Prudential). The new 20,000 square foot building incorporates several ‘green’ concepts and promises to become a destination for shoppers, gawkers and Apple power users.

Ten years ago when I moved back to Boston that area of Boylston Street was flanked by J.C. Hillary’s and a former gas station that had been converted into a small parking lot. The opposite side of the street had a small Star Market grocery store and an access road to the Prudential Mall underground parking lot. The J.C. Hillary’s and defunct gas station has been replaced with trendy shops and restaurants like Anthropologie and Abe & Louie’s and a building built but never used by Planet Hollywood now houses Fidelity Investments and Priscilla’s of Boston. The Mandarin Boston creates an impressive facade where the grocery store and parking lot entrance once was. You could say the cheap has been replaced by the chic.

Weekend in Maine

I spent a very relaxing weekend with my family in Maine and arrived back home earlier today. It was very nice to have the down time together and although it was not warm, being so close to the ocean definitely made me think a lot about the upcoming summer.

Do you hate someone because they are gay?

Being a gay man affords me one advantage that most minorities don’t have – invisibility. People are less inclined these days to speak their thoughts in public for fear of being labelled a bigot, but that does not mean people do not harbor such irrational fears / hatred. People who only see me in public and don’t know me would have no idea that I’m gay. This has been obvious in many situations where people let their opinions slip after initially striking up a conversation with me; assuming that I too can’t stand ‘fags’ or that ‘gay marriage’ is an abomination.

Recently ABC’s television show, “20/20” tested people’s ‘tolerence’ towards homosexuality by hiring actors to engage in activities commonly seeen in public by heterosexual couples. The results might surprise you. In Birmingham, AL people called 911 to have the police put a stop to a couple that was cuddling on a street bench and in Las Vegas a man who was visiting from San Diego shared with an undercover cab driver that he would like to see gay men “put down”. I’m not sure these people would be quite so candid if they knew they were being recorded. The experiment was very interesting to watch but for anyone who identifies as a minority – I doubt hearing this would be much of a surprise.

I think that the US is one of the best places to live if you are a minority, and continued efforts to create greater equality through legal protections and education have made a significant difference. Nobody would argue that the US is moving backwards or the rights of minorities were better 10, 20, 30 or more years ago, but as the video shows – we still have a long way to go. I have been physically threatened and had epitaphs shouted from moving cars more times than I care to remember. However, living in certain parts of the country one can avoid most of those unpleasantries – Boston is a great example of a city one can live in (for the most part) free of those situations. Although no city is totally safe – every city still has residents who harbor irrational fears and hatred that are based on preconceived notions and bigotry towards people who look, act and talk differently from them.

One more party with Nana

My grandmother’s health has been in decline since she suffered a serious stroke in early 2007 and even though she was eventually moved back into her home in Winchester, her life as I knew it was gone. The trauma to the body from the initial stroke was quite severe and her mortality became a reality that my mother and her sibilings had to face in a very real way for the first time since she had taken a serious fall a few years earlier. Despite making a significant recovery, her body suffered a series of smaller strokes through out the rest of 2007 robbing my grandmother of her ability to live independently.

When I picture my grandmother, I think of a waif-like, tiny woman flitting about town running a list of never ending errands that always made her children and grandchildren pale with concern whenever they heard she was getting into a car. The thought of my grandmother driving (even in her best of days was not for the faint of heart). I think of her in the family house at 8 Girard Road, of her coming or going to Florida, painting, playing bridge, talking about her golf game or friends and family. Perhaps if I’m nostalgic, I think of her with my grandfather, “Papa”, who passed away in the mid-90s.

I visited my grandmother on a beautiful winter day in the Winchester Hospital back in December of 2007. Despite the surroundings, we spent time together reminiscing. Looking especially tiny in her hospital bed but cogniscent of all that was happening, my grandmother and I talked about everything and nothing. Walking out the door that afternoon, I knew I would not have that kind of time again with my Nana. A chapter – an epic chapter for me – would be coming to a close and shortly.

Fast forward 6 months later and my grandmother is still alive, but I’m not sure she is very alert anymore. I read on my uncle Joseph’s blog that all the aunts and uncles assembled at her place in Winchester for one last party with Nana to celebrate her life and their lives together. I think it is incredibly touching and was wondering what my parents, aunts and uncles took away from the evening. I hope they are buoyed by the countless number of happy memories my grandmother has armed them with for this moment. I’m sure at some point in the near future I will be writing about my grandmother in the past tense and it will be an awful moment, but it has been obvious to everyone who loves and cares for her that my grandmother is merely alive these days and no longer really living – at least not how we think of our Nana living.

Kate Hudson in the N’hood

There are nearly a dozen or more trailers lining Washington and Union Park Street with film crews running around filming scenes for an upcoming movie starring Kate Hudson. I’m not sure what the movie is or if it is related to any of the filming she was doing here last fall, but it was surreal to see New York City cabs lining my neighborhood and huge movie lights lit up so bright that I had to shade my eyes when I walked by them. Earlier this morning, film crews were busy moving furniture around at Pho Republique restaurant while nearly a score of extras were pretending to eat dinner even though it was only 11:00am.

I’m sure more information about the filming will be reported in either the Boston Globe or the South End News, so if I find out more I’ll be sure to add it on my blog. Back in the fall I wrote about a bunch of filming that was going on in the Backbay in my entry called “Celebrities”. The increased filming was attributed to aggressive legislation the State of Massachusetts passed that gave filming crews tax credits when they filmed in the state. I’m sure the state is pleased to have all this filming and despite the tax breaks you can not deny that money is being spent (and from the looks of it – a lot of money). So kudos to the state for making this happen. For residents of L.A. and other major cities this sort of thing is probably old hat, but it still strikes me as a bit of a novelty.

Kathy Griffin Fired from Hannah Montana

I’m going to see Kathy Griffin perform in Boston on Saturday, May 3rd and I’m very excited. Her brand of humor is cutting and sarcastic – just the way I like my comedy.

The popular website JustJared is reporting that Kathy was recently axed from the popular Disney Channel show, Hannah Montana, because she told Jesus to “suck-it”. A Disney Channel executive said it isn’t so. I could not imagine why they would want to have Kathy on their network she has repeatedly mentioned how much children drive her crazy. I love her humor but I doubt she sits well with Disney’s viewership.

I’m curious if she will mention the recent news in her stand up on Saturday…

Wright Wrong? Who cares?

Reverend Jeremiah Wright, Barack Obama’s former minister, spoke to the National Press Club in Washington D.C. today. You can read the full transcript here or you can watch the NBC video here.

His comments were hardly humble and his tone anything but conciliatory. For his part, Jeremiah Wright answered questions about some of his more inflamatory sermons, but I doubt that his explanations will matter to most in the public. I found some of his responses humorous and others confusing but Rev. Wright’s comments are not of much interest to me. I recognize that I am in the distinct minority (yet again) and am left scratching my head wondering why people would change their support for Obama because of his past association with the Reverend. Obama’s views with regards to our foreign policy, monetary policy, economy, healthcare, energy independence, etc… have not changed in light of the Rev. Wright’s words so why would I not support him if I agree with those views (views which I see as important to my life and those of my neighbors)?

Democratic Party supporters have a right to be concerned if Obama becomes consumed by the controversy or if Party supporters feel that he could not mount a successful general election campaign because of the commercials Republican 501(c)3 organizations are certain to run against him. However, I am hopeful that this situation allows Obama to rise like the mythological Phoenix and prove himself to those who say he is ‘untested’. If his campaign is de-railed by the words of Rev. Wright then that would be a shame in my mind, but I would gladly support Mrs. Hillary Rodham Clinton. She is not my first choice but I think she would represent the Party well in a general election and prove to be a formidable opponent.

Time will tell how this all plays out and I for one can hardly wait. As a self-proclaimed political junkie the Primary Season has been one for the record books.

Recently I was told that I needed to add some pictures or movement to my blog because it was getting boring. I was surprised that anyone I knew was even checking out this site, because I tend to consider it more of an online journal to record my thoughts and occassional rants. However, vanity being what it is, I decided that I would take the critique in stride and do my best to add more visual stimulation (at least for this blog entry).

Earlier this week I was sent a collection of cartoons that poke fun at the rising gas prices. I am lucky that I can walk to work each day, but my partner does have a 40 mile roundtrip commute each day and I know that many people have been impacted by rising gas prices. I’m tempted to use this entry to go on and on about how energy independence and more environmentally friendly options need to be explored,but I will refrain (this time).

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Last week pro-Tibetan forces were able to draw worldwide attention to protest China’s deplorable history of violating human right and their brutal occupation of Tibet by launching massive protests along the Olympic torch route in London, Paris and San Francisco. The protesters in London actually snatched the torch briefly, in Paris the run had to be suspended and in San Francisco a huge banner could be seen flying from the Golden Gate Bridge.

I believe that these public displays only served to outrage Chinese officials rather than raise awareness for the pro-Tibetan cause and while it probably was a source of embarassment for the local Chinese diplomats in those countries, I doubt that the Chinese and Tibetans were even aware of the world outcry (if you could call it that).

A week after these protests, there is not a single mention of these groups in the U.S. news that would help raise awareness or share their message with a broader audience. So I’m left wondering if all the organization and protests had the effect groups were hoping for? Perhaps the situation is different in Europe. It seems to me that Europeans do tend to focus more on international news than in the United States so perhaps the protests were not in vain. However, I think a more effective way to express outrage with the Chinese government’s occupation of Tibet and blatant disregard for human rights is to encourage US and European firms to stop investing in China and educate their citizens so they can purchase products that are made in other nations. All of southeast Asia is hungry for economic investment as is much of the developing world (e.g. Middle East, South and Central America). Flexing our collective economic muscle will have more of an impact on the Chinese government than raising fists on the street in protest. I think I’m just getting old and grumpy – once upon a time I probably would have been rushing out into the street to join those Tibetan protesters.

Apartment Transformation

I moved into my current 2BR / 2BA apartment in the South End nearly 5 years ago, and while the neighborhood has changed significantly in that time, until recently the same could not have been said about my home. Prior to moving in, a hasty paint job was done, but not much else had changed until last month.

Pooling resources with my other half, using some money from Christmas and looking for deals we have been able to take a first step in providing a needed facelift to our home. Most of the changes have taken place in our bedroom – for the first time since leaving my parents house I have an actual bedframe and matching furniture. We still have a few more updates to make to the bedroom before we turn our attention to other rooms in our home, but I am really pleased with the changes.

We both love our home, but after 5 years the updates were necessary to bring back the feeling of homeowner pride. The apartment does not quite look tired, but certainly we were both tired of looking at the space as it was.

City is Buzzing

Marathon weekend started with beautiful weather and continued through last night, but today was decidedly cooler and tomorrow (Marathon Monday) will be downright chilly in the shade with temperatures hovering in the upper 50s if the local meteorologists are correct. I’ll be bundling up to see the Red Sox (hopefully) sweep the Texas Rangers. Then I will meet up with friends to cheer on the runners and try to see a few friends who I know are running in this year’s marathon.

The city is abuzz with all the excitement. Adding to all the drama, the Bruins have done an amazing job evening the playoff series against the Canadiens proving the pundits wrong and showing that they deserved their playoff bid. The Celtics have started their playoff series against Atlanta as well so there is a little bit of something for everyone this weekend. Now if only the sun will do its part and warm up the city a bit more everything will be perfect.