New York Times: Queer Love in Color

gay men of color, gay african american coupleThe New York Times published an excellent article that I wanted to share and encourage people to read entitled, Queer Love in Color

The opening of the article features a call out by Jamal Jordan a black digital director at the Times who wondered why doesn’t anyone gay look like me when he was growing up? Jordan goes on to say, “I spent most of my teenage years believing that love between two black men wasn’t even possible. To my queer white peers, an entire world of change was unfolding: Public support for same-gender marriage eventually led to its legalization nationwide, and queer people were appearing as the leads in more TV shows than I could ever watch. People even won Oscars for directing movies about gay white cowboys. But none of these people looked like me. In the decade since, the wave of change has continued. And yet: I can’t think of a single high-profile example of a loving relationship between two queer people of color.”

That is astounding and sad to realize. Despite the fact that I can think of famous men and women of color who are out (e.g. RuPaul, Billy Porter and Wanda Sykes first came to mind), I have no idea about their love lives and significant others. Contrast that with a laundry list of gay white celebrities like Neil Patrick Harris & David Burtka, Ellen DeGeneres & Portia de Rossi and Tom Daley & Dustin Lance Black, and I’m left wondering is that because of an inherent racial bias in reporting or are gay couples of color intentionally not seeking the spotlight? I don’t know the answer and I think for the most parts whatever your opinion on the matter it is really hard to prove one way or the other so I thought I’d use the opportunity to share the article.

Queer Love in Color

Men in kilts

handsome group of men wearing kiltsThis looks like a fun group of guys. More people should wear kilts in the US.

Previous Men in Kilts Posts

What to do this week: June 25 – July 1

This week has a lot happening ranging from Independence Week hitting Provincetown to a pick up game hosted by Boston Gay Dodgeball to several free movies being shown outside including Saving Private Ryan and Jaws (both playing at Lawn on D) and Grease at Rowes Wharf.

There are also some fun events this week like the Sissy That Walk semi finals this Thursday and an unofficial takeover of Canobie Lake Park on Saturday. Read the full list of activities shared below and then share with your friends.

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MONDAY – THURSDAY

Pizza & Game Night is every Monday from 5-9PM (check out their ping pong and foosball tables) at Dorchester Brewery in Dorchester

Drag Bingo is every Monday starting at 7PM free to play at Club Cafe in Boston

 ShowGirls weekly talent show hosted each Monday at the AHouse in Ptown

Cards Against Sobriety hosted every Monday night at the Alley join your friends for a fun game of Cards Against Humanity starting at 8PM in Boston

Trivia Tuesday is every Tuesday at the Dorchester Brewing Company and starts at 7:30PM in Dorchester

Showtune Tuesday hosted by VJ Ryan Grow starts at 9PM every Tuesday at dbar in Dorchester

Karaoke Night starts at 10PM every Tuesday at Jacques in Boston

Stump Trivia with Jonathan Brett is guaranteed fun and has lots of prizes (trivia starts at 8PM) hosted every Tuesday at Club Cafe in Boston

Sports Night at Peggy’s  is every Wednesday night at Peggy O’Neil’s pub in Dorchester

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Siren Trivia is every Wednesday at 9PM at the Trophy Room bar in Boston

Atomic Karaoke with DJ Stevie Psyclone & Jonathan Brett is every Wednesday at Club Cafe in Boston

Queer Boston Board Gamers is meeting Thursday from 6-9PM at the Cambridge Center Foyer in Kendall Square in Cambridge

Boston Gay Dodgeball (pick up game)  Thursday from 7 – 8:30PM is hosted by the Gay Dodgeball league – $5 pick up game for anyone interested in playing the summer league – game is in Dorchester

Bear Trivia Night is at 8PM every Thursday at The Alley Bar in DTX Boston

Movies at Lawn On D presents Saving Private Ryan 8-10PM on Thursday in the Seaport

Miss Richfield 1981 takes her show on the road to the Vinegar Hill Music Theatre on Thursday (showtime is 8PM) just outside Kennebunkport Maine

BRASH | Queer Party is hosted every fourth Thursday at Brass Union from 9PM – 1AM in Union Square, Somerville

Karaoke Thursdays is every Thursday at Machine with your hosts Rob Botelho and Emphysema Menthol 100s in Boston

Sissy That Walk Semi Finals weekly drag competition the last Thursday of each month Showtime: 12:30AM at Club Cafe in Boston

THE WEEKEND

Independence Week hits Provincetown for a complete listing of all the parties at The Crown be sure to check out this link and get your tickets while they last

Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders in Somerville

Dueling Drag Divas are back this year performing every Friday and Saturday at 8PM at Mainestreet in Ogunquit

Summer in the City presents Grease free to watch outdoors at the Boston Harbor Hotel at dusk but arrive early, seating can be tricky at Rowes Wharf

Movies at Lawn On D presents Jaws 8-10PM on Friday in the Seaport

Casual Fridays is a weekly dance party with no cover featuring DJ Begbick at the Alley Bar in DTX

XO Friday is the weekly dance party hosted by DJ Stevie Psyclone (no cover before 11PM) at Club Cafe every Friday

Kiki Beach is back for its third year and Southie’s M Street Beach has never looked so fabulous – look for the speedos and listen for the good music; starting at 11ish in Boston

Saturday Drag Brunch with Neon Calypso hosted by The Welcoming Committee is Saturday from 12-3PM at the Lansdowne Pub (tix required) in Boston

QPOC Takeover of the Boston Common is hosted by the LGBTQ men of color group, Men of Melanin Magic, on Saturday starting at 1PM in Boston

Big Gay Night at Canobie Lake Park is an unofficial takeover starting at 5PM on Saturday check the Facebook page for more details

Gay Wine Soirée Tasting has been organized the by the group, Gay Wine Soirée, is on Saturday at Benedetto from 5-7PM in Harvard Square

Sutton Lee Seymour performs Saturday and Sunday evening at Mainestreet starting at 8PM in Ogunquit

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So Hot Saturdaes: Mermen is at Peggy’s on Saturday – doors open at 10PM in Dorchester

Video Night Tracks every Saturday night join VJ Ryan Grow at Cathedral Station starting at 9:30PM

The Donkey Show is the ultimate disco experience is a story inspired by A Midsummer Night’s Dream each Saturday at Club Oberon in Cambridge.

Grunt is a weekly dance party with no cover for burly men and their admirers, starting at 10PM at the Alley Bar in DTX

UNITE Saturdays is a weekly dance party at Club Cafe with DJ Susan Esthera (no cover before 11PM) in Boston

Saga Saturdays Boston’s biggest gay dance party at Paradise in Cambridge

SoWa Open Market SoWa Open Market is now open every Sunday from 10AM – 4PM through the end of October in Boston

Back to the 90s Brunch starts at 1PM at Trophy Room on Sunday in Boston

Sunday Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 6PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Karaoke at the Alley is every Sunday starting at 8PM in Boston

Pajama Party is a weekly dance party hosted every Sunday starting at 10PM at Machine in Boston

Hot Mess Sundays at Candibar in the Theater District is every Sunday starting at 10PM in Boston

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.

Summer specials: $1 oysters

$1 oysters, dollar oysters, Earlier this spring EaterBoston published their Ultimate $1 Oyster Guide. By clicking on the link you can read through the nearly 60 restaurants and bars that provide dollar oyster deals throughout Boston, Brookline, Cambridge and Somerville.  Here are a few of my favorite places from that list.

Ashmont Grill every Thursday, starting at 5PM and available while they last.

Bar Boulud Available Monday thru Friday from 4:30-6:30PM this is part of a larger happy hour which also includes other bar bites, selection of local beers, cocktails, including frosé.

Bastille Kitchen from 4:30PM – 7PM Monday thru Saturday dollar oysters are available which you can pair with their monthly wine specials featuring a specific glass of wine for just $5.

Boston Chops on Sundays only from 3-5PM available at the bar and patio only.

Boston Public Market offers this deal the first Sunday of every month, from 11AM – 7PM (or while supplies last).

Les Zygomates offers up dollar East Coast oysters Monday thru Friday from 3-7PM in the bar area only.

Loco Taqueria & Oyster Bar in Southie is every Monday from 5PM – 1AM.

Marliave offers this deal from 4-6PM and from 9-10PM seven days a week.

Oak Long Bar + Kitchen available from the patio menu only, this daily special runs from 4-5PM.

Scruffy Sunday

handsome, hunk, man in bed, man with a hairy chestWhat an absolute cutie. Looks like he would also make for a great Furry Friday.

Previous Scruffy Sunday Posts

Saturday morning coffee

davor garic, handsome, hunk, shaved head, muscular guy, guy wearing underwear, shirtless guyMuch thanks to my friend @bpmoynihan for suggesting this photo of Croatian entertainer and model, Davor Garić, enjoying his morning cup of joe. Certainly makes me want to spend a Saturday morning in Croatia.

Saturday morning comics

gay cartoon, gay comic, James Asal Jr.

ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about this strip by visiting, adamandandy.com.

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Last week’s Comic Strip

Summer lovin’

walking on the beach

I’ve posted this poem previously but thought it worth sharing again.

In the Summer was written by a Syrian named Nizar Qabbani.  I love this poem and its melancholic message seems to make it all the more romantic.

Furry Friday

handsome, hunk, hairy man, sharp dressed manPast Furry Friday Posts

BosGuy brain teaser

riddle, exercise for your brainEach Friday morning I post a riddle to get you to think outside the box and exercise your brain. If you are stumped, share it with a friend or colleague and see if you can figure out the answer together. I’ll confirm answers in the afternoon so don’t worry if you don’t see your comment posted right away. I want to give everyone a chance to guess.

Here is another R-rated riddle since they seem to be so popular (and because each week Blobby likes to guess that the answer is dick – LOL).

This week’s brain teaser: 

You play with me at night before going to sleep. You can’t get caught fiddling with me at work. You only let a select few people touch me. What am I?

Like riddles? Check out past week’s brain teasers.

What to do this weekend

I’d like to give a shout out to the following events that will take place this weekend starting with Boston’s Annual Donna Summer Outdoor Roller Disco Party which takes place tonight and the 6th Boston Jerkfest and Caribbean Food Festival which runs all weekend.

There are plenty of show openings this weekend that you might want to check out as well including Wicked Mean Gurlz (Boston),  Star Boys: A Sci-Fi Burlesque (Ptown) Male Call (Ptown) and Raja from RPDR  (Ptown).

Lastly, be sure to  head over to the DotOUT Annual Summer Solstice Tea Dance  at dbar, which starts at 4PM on Sunday.

Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders in Somerville

Boston’s Annual Donna Summer Outdoor Roller Disco Party  get your groove on at Boston’s annual roller disco party honoring Boston native, Donna Summer from 6-10PM at Government Center / City Hall

Wicked Mean Gurlz runs through Sunday at Club Cafe, this Sing-A-Long drag Cabaret, blends the music and storyline from WICKED with Mean Girls

Northshore Pride Kick Off Sunset Cruise leaves from Salem’s Pickering Wharf Marina at 7PM (don’t be late)

6th Boston Jerkfest and Caribbean Food Festival starts Friday and runs through the weekend at the Ben Franklin Institute in the South End  – GET DISCOUNTED TICKETS HERE (WHILE THEY LAST)

Dueling Drag Divas are back this year performing every Friday and Saturday at 8PM at Mainestreet in Ogunquit

Casual Fridays is a weekly dance party with no cover featuring DJ Begbick at the Alley Bar in DTX

XO Friday is the weekly dance party hosted by DJ Stevie Psyclone (no cover before 11PM) at Club Cafe every Friday

FASCINATION Friday is a monthly gear/ fetish/ kink night at Jacques the 1st and 4th Friday of the month in Boston

Queer Boston Board Gamers – Board Games and BBQ is on Saturday starting at 11AM (please RSVP by Thursday)

Naked @Rock River  is a gay, nude swimming area near Brattleboro, VT. The Meetup will gather at 11AM at the parking area on SR30 – be prepared for a 20 minute hike to the swimming hole

Saturday at M Street Beach – follow the disco music and look for the Speedos

Kiki Beach is back for its third year and Southie’s M Street Beach has never looked so fabulous – look for the speedos and listen for the good music; starting at 11ish in Boston

Portsmouth Pride has events all day on Saturday from 12PM – 11PM in Portsmouth

Taste of Allston runs from 12-3PM and includes 20 restaurants, live music and lawn games over at the Harvard Murr Center in Allston

QTPOC Community Pride Potluck this welcoming social takes place from 1-3PM in Jamaica Plain

DADT Beach Party is Saturday starting at 10PM at Great Scott in Allston

Jackie Beat performs Saturday and Sunday at the Post Office in Provincetown

H E R O E S Saturday (New Venue) Retro dance party hosted the 1st and 3rd Saturdays of each month from 10PM-2AM at Sonia (formerly TT The Bear’s Place) in Central Square

Video Night Tracks every Saturday night join VJ Ryan Grow at Cathedral Station starting at 9:30PM

The Donkey Show is the ultimate disco experience is a story inspired by A Midsummer Night’s Dream each Saturday at Club Oberon in Cambridge.

Grunt is a weekly dance party with no cover for burly men and their admirers, starting at 10PM at the Alley Bar in DTX

UNITE Saturdays is a weekly dance party at Club Cafe with DJ Susan Esthera (no cover before 11PM) in Boston

Saga Saturdays Boston’s biggest gay dance party at Paradise in Cambridge

SoWa Open Market SoWa Open Market is now open every Sunday from 10AM – 4PM through the end of October in Boston

Beyonce Brunch starts at 11:30 in Downtown Crossing at Scholars on Sunday – note that tickets are required

trophy room, gay boston

Glam Bingo Brunch starts at 1PM on Sunday at the Trophy Room

Gay Men 50+ Brunch Meet Up is on Sunday and for men 50 or older who come together regularly for brunch at Club Cafe – visit the link for more details

DotOUT’s Annual Summer Solstice Tea Dance at dbar is Sunday from 4-8PM in Dorchester

Sunday Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 6PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Brokelahomo! (Opening Night) opens in Ptown on Sunday and will run through the summer season in Provincetown

Karaoke at the Alley is every Sunday starting at 8PM in Boston

Pajama Party is a weekly dance party hosted every Sunday starting at 10PM at Machine in Boston

Hot Mess Sundays at Candibar in the Theater District is every Sunday starting at 10PM in Boston

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.

World Naked Bike Ride Boston in one month

WNBRThe annual World Naked Bike Ride (WNBR) is one month from today and for those who would like to participate, check out the World Naked Bike Ride Boston Facebook page and the official event website, wnbrboston.com. For those of you unfamiliar with this annual ride, the WNBR is a clothing optional global protest to call for more bike-friendly streets.

The starting location of this year’s ride won’t be announced until Thursday, July 19th. A pre-party (date TBA) will begin at 6PM and the ride will start at 8PM on Saturday, July 21. Let me know if you plan on participating in this year’s ride. I’d love to hear more about this year’s ride.

Vintage gay

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at bosguymail@gmail.com.

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

Family values

Detention center in McAllen, Texas. Photo: Center for Border Protection

Since the 1980s, the Republican Party has often referred to themselves as the party of “family values”, but over the past several years and more recently under the Trump Administration this has turned into a bad joke. Aside from the daily drama of his war of words with [Insert Person of the Day] or weekly scandals, the news over Father’s Day weekend, showing US agents forcibly separating small children from their parents was enough to make me ill.

I know that there are many people who disagreed with President Obama and disliked his politics and perhaps they felt then as I do now – embarrassed, ashamed and alarmed. I think the thing that bothers me the most about this policy isn’t that our xenophobic / race-baiting President implemented this policy (it isn’t that surprising when you look back at his rhetoric), but what really upsets me is watching nearly the entire Republican Party ferociously defend the policy; some quoting excerpts from the Bible as justification.

#NotMyPresident

This week on Instagram: thecutebrute

gay drawings, gay cartoonsThe Cute Brute is a Brooklyn-based artist. I don’t really know much more about this artist who has eye-catching and somewhat naughty cartoon-like drawings with bold lines and colors.

I love how funny some of his drawings can be like the image shared below – complete with what one follower referred to as “ear butts”.

Follow him on Instagram here, instagram.com/thecutebrute.

Do you like this weekly post? Check out previously featured IG accounts here.