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Book review: Less by Andrew Sean Greer

gay literature, book reviewIt is rare that I read a book that has won as many accolades as Less by Andrew Sean Greer. The national best seller went on to win the Pulitzer Prize and even though I was initially questioning what all the hype was about, once Arthur Less starts his travels, I couldn’t help but get swept up in this story about a little known novelist, trying to live off the acclaim he received from his first book and past relationship with a famous, aging poet.

When Less Andrew’s on again / off again lover (who is much younger than him) sends him an invitation to his wedding, it proves to be more than he can handle. That news, combined with the realization that he will turn 50 in a few months results in a comical midlife crisis. Less decides to decline the wedding invitation and embark on an around the world trip first to NYC then Europe before heading to Morocco, India and finally Japan before settling back home in San Francisco. I think of the trip as a funnier and more relatable, Eat, Pray Love (gay men of a certain age are really going to enjoy).

Less is about a struggling gay author who suffers a spectacular midlife crisis which Greer details beautifully in his book.

Andrew Sean Greer makes a handful of literary references in each chapter, most of which go over my head, but in spite of those references, I found myself either smiling or laughing as I turned the pages. The book is also full of really beautiful insights like this conversation Less has with a friend late one night in Morocco after he learns his friend is splitting with his partner of 20 years. His friend, Lewis, refuses to think of his 20 year relationship as anything but a success.

But you broke up with him. Something’s wrong. Something failed.
       No! No, Arthur, no, it’s the opposite! I’m saying it’s a success. Twenty years of joy and support and friendship, that’s a success. Twenty years of anything with another person is a success… 
     You can’t do this, Lewis. You’re Lewis and Clark. Lewis and fucking Clark. It’s my only hope out their that gay men can last.
     Oh Arthur. This is lasting. Twenty years is lasting! And this has nothing to do with you.

This book can be purchased online at major resellers but you may also buy this in person or online at local bookstores. If you’re open to supporting local bookstores try one of these links, which will take you right to the book so you can make a quick purchase online if that is your preference.

Brookline Booksmith 279 Harvard Street by Coolidge Corner
Harvard Bookstore  1256 Mass Ave in Harvard Square
Papercuts JP 5 Green Street, Jamaica Plain
Porter Square Bookstore 25 White Street in Porter Square
Trident Bookseller’s & Cafe 338 Newbury Street in Back Bay

Scruffy Sunday

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Saturday morning coffee

handsome man, man at a cafeSipping a cup of coffee at a cafe in Paris seems like a very civilized way to start my day, but I’ll settle for waking up and enjoying Provincetown. Wherever you are – enjoy your morning cup of joe.

Saturday morning comics

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ADAM & ANDY is set in the fictional New England town of Woodfield, CT. You can learn more about this strip by visiting, adamandandy.com.

The creator of Adam & Andy posted a series of comic strips this week focused on Dillon – a young guy with a somewhat troubled past who recently has found solace at Adam & Andy’s and who also recently started dating their nephew.

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Meanwhile – back at Adam and Andy’s house…James Asal Jr., gay comic strip, gay cartoonJames Asal Jr., gay comic strip, gay cartoonLast Week’s Comic Strip

Current mood as Sergio and I head to Ptown

Provincetown’s 40th celebration better known as Carnival starts tomorrow and Sergio and I are heading down to spend the week relaxing and while we will likely go dancing, I’m sorry to say I have neither the rhythm nor skill to look this good, but the video does a great job of capturing our current mood.

Hit play, turn on the volume and have a great weekend.

Furry Friday

handsome, hairy, hunk, beautiful man, hairy chestMuch thanks to the Tales of the Sissy blog for sharing this gem of a picture this past June. I couldn’t resist when I saw it and wanted to share it on my blog.

Past Furry Friday Posts

BosGuy brain teaser

riddle, exercise for your brainEach Friday morning I post a riddle to get you to think outside the box and exercise your brain. If you are stumped, share it with a friend or colleague and see if you can figure out the answer together.

I’ll confirm answers in the afternoon so don’t worry if you don’t see your comment posted right away. I want to give everyone a chance to guess.

This week’s brain teaser:  
What is as big as an elephant but weighs zero pounds?

Like riddles? Check out past week’s brain teasers.

What to do this weekend

gay bostonThere is a lot happening this weekend including the second annual Tour de Fat,  The 49th Chinatown August Moon Festival and The Great Boston Rib FestIf you’re looking for something to do with friends that doesn’t involve eating but lets you enjoy the beautiful weather be sure to check out Kiki Beach on Saturday or on Sunday afternoon watch the Red Sox from the Boston Common.

If you’re heading down to the Cape for either part or all of Carnival, which starts on Saturday, be sure to check out my post from earlier this week listing many of the parties, 2018 Carnival in Provincetown: Events & Parties.

Ptown, Provincetown

Provincetown’s 40th Annual Carnival officially starts Saturday, August 11th

Free Fun Friday The ICA is open and free to the public all day on Friday 10AM – 9PM thanks to the Highland Foundation in Boston

Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders in Somerville

Paint Nite is at Club Cafe on Friday from 7-9PM (tix req’d) in Boston

Dueling Drag Divas are back this year performing every Friday and Saturday at 8PM at Mainestreet in Ogunquit

FUZZ  is a monthly gay dance party hosted the second Friday of each month with DJ Brent Covington and DJ Taffy at the Alley in Boston

XO Friday is the weekly dance party hosted by DJ Stevie Psyclone (no cover before 11PM) at Club Cafe every Friday

40th Annual Carnival officially opens on Saturday and will run through Friday in Provincetown

Ironsides Boot Camp 2018 is on Saturday from 1-4PM at Joe Moakley Field – all are welcome no experience playing rugby required in Dorchester

Kiki Beach is back for its third year and Southie’s M Street Beach has never looked so fabulous – look for the speedos and listen for the good music; starting at 11ish in Boston

Tour de Fat returns to Boston on Saturday, courtesy of New Belgium Brewing from 12-5PM at Gov’t Center enjoy food, drink and bikes in Boston

Arthouse, Ptown

Performs on Saturday in Ogunquit

Steve Grand in OGT performs for one night only at Mainestreet starting at 8PM on Saturday in Ogunquit

Underwear Party is every Saturday at Club Purgatory – doors open at 9PM in Provincetown

DILF: Carnival Edition doors open at 9:30PM at the Crown & Anchor’s Paramount Club with music by the Perry Twins in Provincetown

Silver at Peggy’s takes place the second Saturday of every month – this is a dance party for mature audiences and the men who like them – doors open at 10PM at Peggy O’Neil’s in Dorchester

Video Night Tracks every Saturday night join VJ Ryan Grow at Cathedral Station starting at 9:30PM

The Donkey Show is the ultimate disco experience is a story inspired by A Midsummer Night’s Dream each Saturday at Club Oberon in Cambridge.

Grunt is a weekly dance party with no cover for burly men and their admirers, starting at 10PM at the Alley Bar in DTX

UNITE Saturdays is a weekly dance party at Club Cafe with DJ Susan Esthera (no cover before 11PM) in Boston

MOBD Muscle Otter Bear Daddy is from 10PM – 2AM on Saturday at Paradise in Cambridge

49th Chinatown August Moon Festival starts at 10AM in Chinatown

SoWa Open Market SoWa Open Market is now open every Sunday from 10AM – 4PM through the end of October in Boston

Queer Boston Board Gamers Pot Luck BBQ is at 11AM on Sunday in Somerville

Out of the Park: Watch the Red Sox from the Boston Common courtesy of the Highland Foundation, which will broadcast the game on a huge screen – event starts at 11:30AM and game time is 1:05PM on Sunday in Boston

Bear brunch at Trophy Room is this Sunday starting at 1PM in Boston

Project Ugly Dress grab that dress out of your closet to help raise money for The Boston Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence Grants Fund at Club Cafe  from 1-4PM on Sunday in Boston

The Great Boston Rib Fest start at 11:30AM and last until the ribs run out – ribs are $2/each at Dorchester Brewing Co. in Dorchester

Cruise D’ Krewes Sunset Boat Party boarding begins at 4PM and the cruise runs from 4:30 – 7:30PM at Macmillan Pier in Provincetown

*SIP* #10 w/Civil Lie Zation 10th edition with resident DJ Brian Halligan and guest performer, Civil Lie Zation is at Jacques from 6-10PM in Boston

Sunday Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 6PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Karaoke at the Alley is every Sunday starting at 8PM in Boston

The Night of Bacchus Costume Ball is the official opening party for 2018 Carnival – doors open at 8:30PM at the Paramount & Wave bar in Ptown

Pajama Party is a weekly dance party hosted every Sunday starting at 10PM at Machine in Boston

Hot Mess Sundays at Candibar in the Theater District is every Sunday starting at 10PM in Boston

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.

57% of gay men over 45 identify as single

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Source: IG @rufusgifford

A new survey from the AARP has found that the majority of gay men over 45 living in the United States are single. The survey included nearly 2,000 LGBTQ adults from all 50 states and asked people about their thoughts on age and aging.

The survey found that gay men are much more likely to live alone with 57% of gay men over the age of 45 indicating they were single as compared to 39% of lesbians. They did not share what percent of the heterosexual population is single over the age of 45, which I would have found interesting to learn.

The survey, which was first published in March of this year, helps us better understand and be better able to respond to the challenges facing an aging LGBTQ community.  The survey explored other issues including access to quality healthcare, long term care and housing, which mirror concerns the general population share but which many in the gay community face without the help of family or children. You can read the full report here: Maintaining Dignity.

Vintage gay

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share? Email me at bosguymail@gmail.com.

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

Tour de Fat returns to Boston this Saturday

bike, Tour de Fat, handsome guy, shirtless guyNew Belgium Brewing’s Tour de Fat returns to Boston this Saturday. The event which only takes place in six cities nationally, was first held in Boston last summer. The fun event brings together bikes, beer and music with proceeds going to the Bike Union; a group that advocates for safer streets and increased ridership throughout Boston.

Tour de Fat is at City Hall Plaza on Saturday, August 11th from 12-5PM. Admission is $15 — or free for all volunteers so get your tickets today.

Tour de Fat Boston
Saturday, August 11th
12 p.m.  – 5 p.m.
City Hall Plaza

This week on Instagram: provincetowncom

ptownSergio and I will be leaving for Provincetown in just a few days to enjoy Carnival Week so it seems appropriate to feature this Instagram account dedicated to showing off how beautiful this tiny town at the tip of Cape Cod really is. I want to also give a shout out to CT-native and photographer, Ryan Zipp who took the photo above (you can follow him at @ryanzipp).

Follow this account on Instagram here, instagram.com/provincetowncom.

Do you like this weekly post? Check out previously featured IG accounts here.

Caption this photo

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Hopefully the caption I’ve shared below inspires you to offer up a caption or two of your own. Leave a witty or funny caption as a comment for this post, and I’ll approve it for readers to enjoy.

“Put your back into it”

Summer readin’

gay pulp fictionPublished by All Star in 1964 I can only imagine Fenster’s novel must’ve been a real page turner.

Boston’s accent is wicked recognizable

According to a recent YouGov poll, Boston has the strongest regional accent in the nation, while Southern accents were deemed the sexiest. Some 23% of respondents picked Boston as the strongest regional accent followed by the Deep South with 16%, and New York and Texas tied with 13% 

More than a third of Americans self-identify as speaking with a regional accent, which means that nearly 120 million Americans speak “funny”.