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April 17th – Day of Silence


Friday – April 17th is The National Day of Silence. The purpose of this day is to bring attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment, and I have decided to participate in my own way.

On Friday, I will not post on my blog, answer personal e-mails or log on to twitter. I understand that many people might not understand the point of this day. However, to those who would read my blog and feel that way all I can say is that I identify with this issue on a very personal level that I would rather not discuss in such a public forum. And if this is how this movement wants to draw attention to this problem then I want to show my support.

Want to learn more? Link here.

Thank you Vermont

Today Vermont became the fourth state to legalize gay marriage (and the first to do so with a legislature’s vote). The House recorded a dramatic 100-49 vote, the minimum needed, to override Gov. Jim Douglas’ veto. The vote followed a much easier override vote in the Senate, which rebuffed the Republican governor with a vote of 23-5.

Utah can kiss my ass


www.utah.travel
This morning I saw an advertisement on MSNBC from the Utah Office of Tourism encouraging viewers to come and visit the state of Utah.

However, as the advertisement played all I could think about was how the Mormon Church spent an estimated $25 million in the battle to end gay marriage in California. Now I recognize that there is a separation of Church and State. However, separating the Mormon Church from the fate of Utah is like separating the Catholic Church from Rome, Italy. Both churches are inexplicably tied to their respective homes.

I decided if the Mormon Church thought it was appropriate to spend $25 million dollars to ban same sex marriages in CA, it would be appropriate for me to contact the Utah Office of Tourism to let them know how angry I was with the actions of the Mormon Church. Earlier this morning I sent the office an e-mail to let them know I would not consider spending any of my money in their state. Moreover, I would encourage everyone I know to boycott the state.

If you would like to contact the Utah Office of Tourism the address is below. Please consider sending a quick e-mail and encourage your friends to do the same.

Utah Office of Tourism
Council Hall/Capitol Hill
300 N. State Street
Salt Lake City, UT 84114
Phone: 1-800-200-1160
E-mail: travel@utah.gov

Thank you Iowa

On Friday, April 3rd the Iowa State Supreme Court unanimously overturned the state’s law banning same sex marriage on the grounds that it violated the equal protection clause of the state’s constitution. This is a new legal argument, which until now had been based on the fact that same sex couples were being denied due process. Regardless, of the reasoning, I was pleased to see a state that in 2004 had voted for George Bush now stepping forward and joining MA and CT in the 21st century.

The Daily Beast has a nice spread briefly explaining what happened in Iowa, the implications and next steps… Link here to read more.

Spring fundraisers in Boston

The Taste of the South End
Last month I wrote about the AIDS Action Committee fundraiser, Taste of the South End. This is one of my favorite fundraisers, and I try to attend it every year.

I was surprised when a friend sent me this video from YouTube. At the end your’s truly makes an appearance. True to form, I’m shoving food down my throat. However the memories of the shrimp ceviche tacos from 28 degrees are happy ones so I don’t mind.

The Men’s Event
This Saturday, I will be joined by friends and nearly 1,500 Gay men as we all descend upon the Marriott Copley to attend the Fenway Health Center’s annual black-tie extravaganza, otherwise known as The Men’s Event.

If you don’t have plans as yet – it is a great time and money goes to a very worthwhile organization. You can link to the Fenway homepage and still buy tickets if you like.

About The AIDS Action Committee of MA
Founded in 1983, AIDS Action Committee of MA is a community-based health organization whose mission is to stop the HIV/AIDS epidemic by preventing new infections and optimizing the health of those already infected. AAC provides free, confidential services to 2,500 men, women and children living with HIV/AIDS. If you like, you can make a donation to the AAC here.

About The Fenway
The Fenway Institute operates the nation’s first community-based HIV research program, which has been conducting long-term epidemiological research since 1985. Fenway Health is affiliated with Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center. If you like, you can make a donation to the Fenway here.

Showtune Tuesday @ dbar

Every Tuesday is showtune Tuesday at dbar in Dorchester and everytime I go I have so much fun. Last night was no exception as I found myself eating dinner and watching clips from musicals ranging from Mary Poppins and The Lion King, to Rent and The Color Purple.

I rarely rally to go out on a Tuesday night, but yesterday was a special day as a good friend (who happens to bar tend at dbar) was celebrating his birthday. So in a nod to both dbar which salutes musicals and my friend – I’m including this little ditty from one of my favorite musicals of all time, Hedwig and the angry inch. I absolutely love it when the dancing wig appears around the 4 minute mark… Perhaps you’ll find yourself singing along too.

US votes to decriminalize homosexuality

Yesterday President Obama’s administration formally endorsed a UN statement calling for the worldwide decriminalization of homosexuality, reversing a measure that former President George W. Bush had refused to sign. You can read the full article here.

As I’ve pointed out from time to time on my blog, there are many reasons I vote for a party vs. the individual. Paramount in that decision is the fact that while there may be many moderates in the Republican Party who have no problem with the fact that I’m a homosexual – they have no power or voice in a party that is in the arms of the Christian Far Right so why would I willingly allow a single seat to that party even if I like the individual candidate? I’m not here to change a political party – I expect to feel that I have a seat at the table of a political party. This latest reversal of the Bush administration is one more tangible and distasteful reminder that for a gay man – there is only one political party – so much for having choices.

Oh brother…

Thanks to David from wickedgayblog for posting this on his blog today. I would have missed this otherwise.

Opening night: Of Mice and Mink

Tonight the Gold Dust Orphans latest play, ‘Of Mice and Mink’ opens at what Landry drolly refers to as the Ramrod Performing Arts Center. Showtime is 8pm and runs through Sunday, March 15th so don’t be late or miss your chance.

If you’ve never been to a Ryan Landry show 0r if it has been quite awhile – check it out. Do your part to stimulate the economy by supporting the local arts scene. This is one group that is certain to stimulate you back.

Tickets can be purchased online at TheaterMania or by phone at 866-811-4111 – $30.00. If you go – please shoot me an e-mail to share your thoughts.

Fighting H8 in CA and beyond

Saturday’s NY Times article, “Prop 8 Donor Web Site Shows Disclosure Law Is 2-Edged Sword” is an interesting article because it seems to pit political ideals of creating greater transparency with concerns for individual safety, but is this really the case?

The article is talking about the website, eightmaps, which has taken the names and ZIP codes of people who donated to the CA Proposition 8 ballot measure this past November and overlays the data on a Google map. The NY Times article asserts that several of the donors for Prop 8 have received death threats and their privacy has been violated, because of what eightmaps has done.

I think that all reasonable people can agree that threatening supporters of Prop 8 should not be tolerated. However organizing boycotts of businesses that donated to the proposition, raising awareness to educate and change perceptions and engaging the supporters of Prop 8 in reasonable dialog should be encouraged. This is considered political activism and is a virtue – not a vice. The NYT article seems to make such actions sound wrong when they write, “some donors to groups supporting the measure… have been boycotted.” I’m not sure why this is a problem.

While those who crafted the CA Political Reform Act of 1974, which requires all political contributions greater than $100 to be made public certainly never envisioned the power of the internet, it does not mean that the reasons for passing the reform act should be reconsidered as the NYT alludes when they write, “most striking example of how information collected through disclosure laws… may be undermining the same democratic values that the regulations were to promote.”

When MA legalized same-sex marriage in 2004, a website called knowthyneighbor.org, raised the ire of many who opposed gay marriage by publishing their names and addresses. The website actively encouraged Gays and Lesbians (and their supporters) to reach out to those opposing marriage equality in the state – not to threaten them but to engage in dialog. The court of public opinion played a HUGE part in finally legalizing same-sex marriage in MA and the same will be true for CA and the rest of the country.

I’mpossible – $100M Grant to Find an AIDS Cure

There has been so much bad news of late, I wanted to share a story currently on Boston.com and The Boston Globe which is reporting that the founder and owner of Cambridge-based, Intersystems, has made a $100M donation to find a cure for AIDS.

The grant will be paid out over the next 10 years in $10M increments and will be shared with other research facilities, including Harvard and M.I.T., but the majority of the donation will be given to Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH). To read the full story online link here.

SpeakEasy Stage presents "The New Century"

Starting this past Friday (January 16th) The SpeakEasy Stage opened their latest production, The New Century. The 90-minute show at the Calderwood Pavilion runs through Valentine’s Day and is described on the SpeakEasy Stage website as an “hilarious collection of four short gay-themed comedies. A wealthy Jewish matron with at least three gay children, a flamboyant public access TV host and a Midwestern scrapbooker/competitive cake decorator each have their say, then meet, in this outrageous look at where society is headed in the new millennium.”

I’ve purchased tickets for their final performance on Saturday, February 14th. If you have not had the chance to check out the peformance or would like to find out a bit more about the show the SpeakEasy Stage website has a video trailer you can link to view here.

Provincetown Winter Night

I have just returned from a relaxing few nights in Provincetown where I spent the New Year’s holiday with my other half and another couple. I plan on sharing a few pictures from our trip but in lieu of writing what we did I took a stab at expressing myself through poetry. There is no disputing the the final result may indeed embarass me in time when I look back at this entry but I thought I would share this attempt at creative expression.

Provincetown Winter Night

The laughter and sounds of summer are gone
Just an echoing memory ’til next year.

The howling winter winds now own the night
Their screams buffet our house and all you can hear.

Winter’s full fury keeps Commercial Street quiet
But in a few months the sun and warmth will return.

And then the crowds will too as they always do
But only after winter has had its turn.

My 2008 Retrospective

One of the reasons I started my blog was to record my thoughts and so as 2008 draws to a close, I wanted to revisit some of the high and low points from the year.
THEATER
Although there were no visits to Broadway shows in NYC this year, I was able to get out and see the following shows: Spamalot, Avenue Q, Whizzin, The Light in the Piazza, Varla Jean Loves a Foreign Tongue, and All About Eve. Additionally, I went to see both Margaret Cho and Kathy Griffin when they visited Boston. I also had excellent seats to see George Michael who put on a fantastic show.

TRAVEL
As with most Americans the majority of my travel this year was close to home, but I was able to get away a few times. I started 2008 in sunny, warm Fort Lauderdale. In the spring, I spent a cozy weekend with my entire family on the coast of Maine and later in the summer I spent long weekends in both Newport, RI and Provincetown, MA. I also made a mad dash to NYC to see the US Open in August with my former co-worker and friend Stephanie. This past November / December I visited Brasil and spent time in Belo Horizonte, Buzios, and Sao Paolo. Lastly, I will be leaving tomorrow to say good bye to 2008 from chilly Provincetown. All, told I visited 8 cities / towns and packed my bags for vacation a total of 7 times – not shabby.

CHANGES IN 2008
In February, I accepted a job to work for a well respected professional services firm and left my job at The Bostonian Group after nearly 4 years of service to the firm. The chance to join the Healthcare practice at this firm was a no brainer and something I have no regrets about but it was difficult leaving an organization where I had made so many wonderful friends.

The most upsetting change in 2008 happened on May 21st when my grandmother “Nana” passed away. Her passing was a forgone conclusion and had been expected for several months but it was still very upsetting and she is dearly missed. I can see how much she is missed in the eyes of her children who have spent the past 6 months learning to cope without their mother.

In June candidate Obama clinched the Democratic nomination making him the first man of color from either party to accomplish such a feat. Five months later he would go on to be the first African American elected to be President of the United States. Finally, after eight years, I felt like reason and intelligence won the day over fear and a desire to elect a President you would want to share a beer with – jeesh!

Other Great Moments in 2008
– Gov. Deval Patrick is one of the first (if not the first) sitting governor to walk in a Pride Parade. He does it to show his love and support for his daughter as well as to show his support for GLBT equality.

– The Red Sox and Patriots season may not have ended in victory but the Celtics accomplish an amazing turn around thanks to the addition of Kevin Garnett and others. Helping the Green Machine crush the LA Lakers (how sweet) and win their league leading 17th NBA Championship title.

– I attended my very first Tennis major by going to the US Open in NYC and was able to see first week matches played by Rafael Nadal and Serena Williams. Sweet!

– The Beijing Olympics and Michael Phelps combined for a one-two knock out punch that made the 2008 Summer Olympics probably the most amazing I will ever see in my lifetime.

Thank you for the memories 2008… I look forward to 2009.

Jon Stewart and Mike Huckabee

As shared in this week’s Bay Windows.

“I think you are looking at sexuality and not attributes, and it’s odd because the conservative mantra is a “meritocracy”, and I think what you are suggesting is the fact that being gay parents makes you not as good as others and I would suggest that a gay, loving family with a financially stable background beats the hell out of Britney Spears and Kevin Federline any day of the week.” – Jon Stewart, discussing same-sex marriage and parenting with Baptist minister and former presidential candidate Mike Huckabee, The Daily Show, Dec. 9.