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Toys for Joys is next Friday, December 9th

T4J Boston, Toys for Joys Boston, Toys 4 Joys If you’ve yet to register to attend the 8th annual Toys for Joys Gift Gala, I wanted to remind you that the celebration is a week from this Friday on December 9th. This is a really wonderful event that brings together Boston’s LGBTQ community and our allies to collect gifts for underprivileged children in Boston and the Boston area. The fundraiser is devoid of speeches and rubber chicken meals and devoted instead to socializing with friends. 

Registration site for: Toys 4 Joys Gift Gala

Toys for Joys, T4J 2016

Furry Friday

Black, handsome, hunk, hairy

Past Furry Friday Posts

BosGuy brain teaser

brain teaser, shirtless manEach Friday morning I post a riddle to get you to think outside the box and exercise your brain.  If you are stumped, share it with a friend or colleague and see if you can figure out the answer together.

I’ll confirm answers in the afternoon so don’t worry if you don’t see your comment posted right away. I want to give everyone a chance to guess.

This week’s riddle: What is harder to catch the faster you run?

Like riddles? Check out past week’s brain teasers

It is Holly Folly weekend in Provincetown

PtownProvincetown’s Holly Folly 2016 is a three-day weekend festival that starts tomorrow on Friday, December 2 and runs through the weekend. The full line up of events which includes lots of shopping, music, parties and more is detailed on their official website, ptown.org/holly-folly.

Today is World AIDS Day

HIV, Fenway Health Study, Stronger TogetherDespite amazing advances there remains no cure and new infections continue to be reported.  In honor of World AIDS Day, make a commitment to know your status if you’ve not been tested recently and encourage your friends to do the same. AIDS Service Organizations (ASO) around the country and the world, still need your support. Here in Boston, our largest ASO is The AIDS Action Committee of Massachusetts.  Visit their website, make a donation or volunteer.

AIDS Action Committee of MA

Vintage gay

ACT Up, AIDS, Boston

1987 Copley Square, Boston, Source: History Project Photo Credit: Marilyn Humphries

In honor of World AIDS Day, I wanted to share this photo for my weekly Vintage Gay post. As an impressionable and closeted teenager, demonstrations from men and women who were protesting the Reagan Administration’s lack of action to help those dying of AIDS is seared in my memory and one of the reasons I think of President Ronald Reagan as an evil, uncaring, inhumane President.

Previous Vintage Gay Photos

I dedicate this weekly post, featuring vintage gay photographs, to the men and women who lived in a more critical time where being true to yourself and loving who you want wasn’t always an option and came at a great price. Do you have a photo you would like to share for a future post? Email me at bosguymail@gmail.com.

How Privileged Are You?

BuzzfeedA couple years ago BuzzFeed posted this quick and easy (unscientific – I feel like that needs to be stressed these days) quiz to determine how ‘privileged’ you are. While I don’t take these online quizzes too seriously – and I hope you don’t either – they can be a fun distraction.  This particular online quiz also made me reflect on some of the things I take for granted as well as some things that I’ve learned to either overcome or at a minimum not dwell upon.

I scored a 54 out of 100 points. The survey explains, “You’re quite privileged. You’ve had a few struggles, but overall your  life has been far easier than most. This is not a bad thing, nor is it something to be ashamed of. But you should be aware of your advantages and work to help others who don’t have them.”

I normally wouldn’t share this survey, but the final sentence, “But you should be aware of your advantages and work to help others who don’t have them.” struck a chord with me.

Much thanks to my friend, David G, for pointing out that I neglected to include a link to the survey if you’d like to give it a try. Chalk it up to the hazzards of self editing! Link here: How Privileged Are You.

Word of the day: Camp

Word of the dayCamp (\ˈkamp\verb
Definition: to mimick or exaggerate gestures, behaviors, conversational styles and emotions, by parodying stereotypes and social conventions.
Example: For generations gay men have used camp to express their frustrations.

Caption this photo

underwear, funnyEach Wednesday morning I post a photograph and ask readers to offer a funny caption.  Hopefully the caption below inspires you to share a few of your own.

So Demure

Boston’s Slutcracker opens this week

slutcracker

“A Great Hymn to Christmas and Sexuality” – John Waters

The Slutcracker is Boston’s groundbreaking holiday smash-hit that is returning for its ninth season at the Somerville Theater in Davis Square. For those of you who may be unfamiliar, the Slutcracker provides a scene-by-scene retelling of The Nutcracker with a naughty twist.

Performances start Friday, December 2nd and will run through December 31st but tickets to this show sell quickly so do not delay.

fringe theater, boston, burlesque

Click here for more information and to purchase tickets

 

Stronger together: Taking back Congress in 2018

us-congressI’m more than alarmed by a Donald Trump presidency. Having said that, I’m also becoming increasingly alarmed by the reaction of many Progressives. I half expect to see my friends foaming at the mouth and pulling their hair out on January 20, 2017. Something (BTW) that will bring Trump and his supporters a great deal of satisfaction, which is one reason instead of feeding into the hysteria, I refuse to be baited. It is also the reason I’m writing this post.

Vilifying all Trump supporters won’t help Progressives

If we hope to change the hearts and minds of those previously undecided voters (many of whom held their nose when they voted for Trump or worse yet, stayed home on election day), vilifying his supporters won’t make them more open to listening to our [Progressives] very real concerns. Diane Hessan wrote an insightful article in The Boston Globe that was republished on BostInno, What I Learned Studying America’s ‘Undecideds’. Hessan worked on special assignment for the Clinton campaign to better understand the views of undecided voters in swing states. Her conclusion on why / how Clinton lost the election is summed up in one paragraph in her article:

“Last week, I reread all of my notes. There was one moment when I saw more undecided voters shift to Trump than any other, when it all changed, when voters began to speak differently about their choice. It wasn’t FBI Director James Comey, Part One or Part Two; it wasn’t Benghazi or the e-mails or Bill Clinton’s visit with Attorney General Loretta Lynch on the tarmac. No, the conversation shifted the most during the weekend of Sept. 9, after Clinton said, “You can put half of Trump supporters into what I call the basket of deplorables.”

It is time for Progressives to get real. Progressives have only enjoyed political prominence recently. Prior to the Obama administration, you have to go back to the Carter Administration (1976-1980) before you can really point to a President that consistently supported progressive policies and ideals. The Liberal wing of the Democratic Party have a long history of making change happen even when we don’t have a champion in the White House or the support of Congress. So it is time to flex our grass roots muscles and build bridges – not burn them.

We are stronger together so let’s start practicing what we preach

We must identify those who voted for Trump not because they liked him but because they felt they had no other choice and the same goes for those who stayed home on election day. Elections are all about numbers and if our goal is to take back the US Senate and the US House of Representatives (a long shot I know) in 2018 then we need to change our tone and do as Hessan wrote:

“Empathy — trying to understand others as deeply as possible — is an important first step… Obama said it eloquently last week, noting that our election is ultimately an intramural scrimmage because we are all on one team. If we believe in liberty and justice for all, we have to acknowledge how terrible it is to feel left out — and then to ask questions, learn and walk in each other’s shoes.”

I don’t think we should roll-over and play dead, but if we really want to take back Congress, there needs to be more decorum. While some may find it cathartic to shout “bigot”, “misogynist” or “homophobe”, or to scandalize everything Trump says or does, it doesn’t really build bridges or practice what we preach about being stronger together. Nor are those accusations a fair characteristic of everyone who voted for Trump; remember Obama won over voters from Ohio, Pennsylvania, Michigan and Wisconsin – twice. Lastly, making such accusations will rally those “undecideds” to Trump, possibly delivering him a larger majority in Congress in 2018, and I think we can all agree that must not happen.

Temptation Tuesday

handsome, hunk, James Fulton

Past Temptation Tuesday Posts

Emilio’s Pizza & Sub shop closing

emilios-pizza-and-subAccording to The Boston Guardian, another long-time South End business will close its doors. While vacationing in Brazil I saw this shared on Facebook by a friend and after a bit of digging I found The Guardian’s post on Twitter.

Emilio’s owner did not give a date for when they would close but mentioned a back injury, which prevents him from continuing to work is the cause for closing. Emilio’s has been a neighborhood fixture since it first opened in 1979 and when it closes it will join the Five Seventy Market located two blocks down the street, which closed earlier this year after the owner unexpectedly passed away. It is sad to see successful small businesses close under such circumstances.

Send a message to Speaker Ryan

paul-ryanAre you disheartened by the election results from earlier this month? If so, here is a way for you and your friends (because you should share this if you really are upset) to express your dissatisfaction and help send a message to Paul Ryan.

My friend and neighbor, David, who is far more diligent than me and whom I trust completely, shared that Speaker Ryan’s office is conducting a survey, hoping they can show there is a people’s mandate for repealing the Affordable Care Act – a.k.a. Obamacare.

You and your friends can help send Speaker Ryan quite a different message and it will take you less than 30-seconds of your time.

  1. Call (202) 225-0600
  2. Wait through a loooong silence until it rings
  3. Press “2” to respond to the survey
  4. Listen to a message
  5. Press “1” to register your support for Obamacare
  6. When you are done, copy and paste these instructions into a new status on Facebook to share with your friends.

What to do this week November 28 – December 4

Ptown

Holly Folly Weekend in Provincetown Dec. 2-4

What to do this week:  November 28- December 4th

Geek Trivia is guaranteed fun and has lots of prizes (trivia starts at 8PM) hosted every Tuesday at Club Cafe in Boston

Show Tune Tuesday is hosted every Tuesday at dbar in Dorchester

Tuesday Night Trivia is at The Alley Cat every Tuesday starting at 8PM in Providence

Karaoke Night starts at 10PM every Tuesday at Jacques in Boston

AIDS Support Group of Cape Cod commemorates World AIDS Day at 4:30PM at Water’s Edge Cinema on Thursday, December 1 in Provincetown

Getting To Zero: Ending the Epidemic Together is a discussion hosted on World AIDS Day, Thursday, December 1 in Boston

boston-common-tree-lighting

Boston Common Tree Lighting starts with an ice show at the duck pond, with lighting festivities starting at 6PM – Chronicle will broadcast Live from the Common starting at 7PM on Thursday, December 1 in Boston

Thump Thursdaes! takes place every Thursday at Peggy O’Neil’s Pub in Dorchester

Screening Series: Jackie is showing at 7:30PM at The Brattle on Thursday, December 1 in Cambridge

Golden Girls Live – ‘LOST’ Christmas Episode takes place at Club Cafe Thursday through Sunday in Boston

Holly Folly Weekend starts Friday, December 2 and runs through Sunday, December 4 in Provincetown

SoWa Winter Festival 3-day event will move to the SoWa Power Station at 540 Harrison Ave Friday, December 2 – Sunday, December 4 in Boston

SoWa First Fridays allows you to peruse galleries and artist studios in the South End from 5 – 9PM on Friday, December 2 in Boston

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Thunder from Down Under perform for one night at The Wilbur on Friday, December 2 at 7PM in Boston

Queer Inclusive Climbing Klub (QuICK) Pizza night and climbing club at Brooklyn Boulders on Friday, December 2 in Somerville

The Slutcracker returns for their 9th season at the Somerville Theater – opening night is Friday, December 2 in Somerville

Guerrilla Queer Bar takes place at a location to be named later this week on Friday, December 2 in Boston

The Judy Garland Christmas Special is every Saturday night at 8PM at Club Cafe in Boston

Underbear monthly gay dance party held the first Saturday of the month at The Alley in DTX starts at 10PM on Saturday, December 3 in Boston

gay Boston, Paradise Boston, Chris Harris

Saga Saturdays is Boston’s newest gay night featuring some of the best DJs and plenty of great dancing at Paradise Saturday, December 3 in Cambridge

Ego Saturdays with DJ Richie LaDue from 10PM – 3AM in Providence

G.F. Handel Messiah is at Trinity Church starting from 3-5PM on Sunday, December 4 in Boston

Back 2 Basics Tea Dance never has a cover and always has great music from 70s 80s & 90s, starting at 5PM no cover every Sunday at Club Cafe in Boston

Karaoke Sundays is hosted each week starting at 9PM at Mainestreet every Sunday in Ogunquit

Send me information about your upcoming programs and events in my blog’s comment section or message me the details on Facebook.